Countrymouse Posted November 2018
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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
You are so right - makeup is supposed to enhance one's natural appearance not change them to the point you don't even recognize them when or if they take it off. There are some beauty YouTubers who when I saw them without their makeup, I honestly couldn't believe it was the same person.
I'm with you too - I don't want to look like someone else and since all the restaurants and grocery stores around us knew my husband and I, I really got upset when they said I looked like another person. I've been compared to two actresses and two local news reporters. I remember once in 7th grade, my best friend who lived behind us, met me at the corner to walk to school. She was wearing the exact same white platform shoes AND the same dress in the same color. I felt ridiculous. I wanted to be me and for her to be her.
The whitest teeth I've ever seen was the receptionist at a dental specialist's office. It's all I could focus on and really had to make an effort to not look at them. My teeth are too sensitive for all that stuff.
"GardenArtist" - Did you know there's a technique called "baking" in applying makeup? That's where they can get that thick as a "pancake" look.
Hopefully, you won't hold it against me that I wear makeup - lol! I do it for myself and my husband appreciates when I look nice. He loves me without makeup so it isn't even that. I look like me and I don't do all the contouring, highlighting, bronzing etc. - I don't have the time or patience for all that. As you age, they say "less is more." I just want to age gracefully. My hair is still 95% dark with gray and silver near the temple area. Sometimes I do pull the silver, wiry ones but if I keep doing that, I'll eventually be bald!
I dress for myself. I look nice and neat, but I am comfortable. I have very comfortable high heels (shoes & boots), I also have very comfortable combat boots...depending on what kind of look I am going for. I still dye my hair and wear a touch of makeup; however, my hair style is super easy. Those days of spending hours in front of the mirror before going out went out the window years ago. I do dress up a bit more if I have business to take care of, but in truth...who cares what people think! If people notice me then ok and if they don't, thats ok too! I'll do me just the way I want and that really is all that matters.
Be you and what you like. Send is right in the fact that you do feel better when you look nicer and sad to say, people do treat you better too!!!!
The other thing I have notice is the blinding white teeth! What is with having bright white teeth that doesn't even look real. I am not saying to have yellow teeth, but no one's teeth are that white naturally!! 😳
Same with coloring my hair! I am silver now! Although I still have some pepper mixed in with the salt 😊.
Christat, I think you've experienced some of the liberation of deciding to live as you want, and to use make-up or not. I gradually quit using it over the years, then down to just lipstick until I read about the lead in it. I haven't using anything since then, and feel healthier, even if it's only in my mind.
I also feel more liberated; I've always hated the anticipation that women are going to try to look pretty or beautiful. Nuts to that. I want to be smart, not lovely or beautiful.
Although I know that younger men are paying more attention to their appearances, I think, and hope, that eventually they'll accept themselves for what they are.
It seems to me that cultivating a personality that's appealing is more important that looking like a fashion model.
One of the looks that's become predominant over the last several years seems to be enough makeup to make a face look like a pancake - too much coloring on the face, with a drastic change below the chin, obviously artificial and huge eyebrows, similar hairstyle... let people just be who they want, not clones.
Yes, growing up we had classes @ Hinshaw's Dept. Store, on etiquette, modeling, how to walk/posture etc., but we were too young for make-up.
I have sat at many a cosmetics counter having my face done by Estee Lauder, Clinique, and Clarins. Years ago now.
Still remember my therapist teaching how it is important to keep ourselves up during our lives. Whether one is formal or very casual. Take it from an older lady over 65+, he was right. He said, quoting someone: "You can never be too rich, or too dressed up." [Note: He never covered that you can be too old.]
One reason, is that dressing well, looking nice, people treat you better.
Another is, that your countenance is lifted if you dress acceptable at least to yourself. People are attracted to a confident person.
Leaving the house hoping that you don't see anyone you know is not a good plan, imo.
I am going to try to look better, more often this year. If I get a chance to go out safely, I am taking it!
I understand women who have rejected their harsh mother's teachings, rebelled, and even brag about how sloppy they can look. They did not need to do this once they were independent and adult. Each woman can design their own comfortable dress and makeup. But if you want to be treated well, dress up, be clean when you leave the house this day. Or not. ⏳
Chriscat,
Yes, relaxing my standards has been liberating. But cannot wait to be looking better. I am embarrassed to go out just now.
Another tradition I want to continue is my husband and I eating together at the table daily.
My mom used to say, “A little powder and a little paint, makes a girl what she ain’t.”
I don’t know where that original quote came from.
I do know some people go to bed with cosmetics on, which is horribly bad for our skin.
I have gone through different phases with makeup.
When I was around 12 I was fascinated by it. I guess I looked at it as part of wanting to be older than I was.
I asked mom if I could buy lip gloss because my friends were wearing it. She said no so I saved up my allowance to buy some.
I put it on, my father saw it and told me to wash my face. I was crushed!
I had to wait awhile before my parents allowed me to wear it.
That wasn’t as bad as when I wanted to shave my legs.
I remember telling my mom that I looked like a gorilla! LOL
She wouldn’t let me shave. I went into the bathroom and took daddy’s razor, not knowing that I needed shaving cream or soap and water and I attempted to shave my legs.
Oh my gosh! I cut my leg from my ankle to my knee!!!
I had blood all over. My mom got really upset with me. Then she said, “Well, you better let me show you the proper way to shave your legs.”
Being 12 was hard! LOL
At that age we were all exploring and looking for our independence.
I did that ‘Color Me Beautiful’ class at a fancy uptown salon in my 20’s. It was fun!
Do you remember that era? We found out what colors looked best on us and what shades of makeup to wear.
I think most women spend a fortune on skin care when they are younger.
I tended to wear less makeup later on, opting for a more natural look.
Another mystery: threading your eyebrows.
There are devices that lightly spray liquid foundation onto your face. I've even seen them at Walgreens.
EB,
I would love to think that it was a compliment! And I could be hypersensitive. Mom never compliments me.
My daughter was sitting off to the side when Mom made her comment and I almost burst out laughing at the look on her face. Her mouth literally fell open! Lol
Sometimes we can read into things and take it the wrong way amd I've done that.
I saw the airbrush commercial on TV but have not tried it.
There is airbrushing for one's face?
What did I miss?
Never heard of it.
Has anyone tried it?
I'd file it where I filed my SIL's observation: that "I looked *different* with my hair all pulled back, so, um, neatly".
In.the.bin.
While my Mom (total narcissist) was here visiting over Christmas, we had this exchange. It left me scratching my head!
Mom: Do you airbrush your face?
Me: No, why?
Mom: Well I'm just trying to figure out how you get that glow?
Me: I use foundation and powder. That's it.
Mom: oh..... crickets....
Again, insult or compliment?
It's kinda comical!!
Thanks again for all the support ,,,,,while Mom was still here and since she's been gone.I really appreciate it~
Love it! Watch it every New Year’s Eve.
Wishing you a speedy recovery.
Hoping all went well with the surgery.
Praying tonight for a speedy recovery for you.
Colleen
Thinking of you today. Wishing you all the luck and plenty of recoup time. Let those guys wait on you for awhile.
(((Hugs)))