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Having traveled much of the USA during my working career, I truly believe I live in one of the most beautiful spots in our land: mountains and hills with dense forest areas and the cleanest lake in the country. I often enjoy the scenery just driving back home. Myrtle Beach and Charleston are just a few hours away for beach vacations. There are places I still hope to visit: the Arizona memorial and the Grand Canyon are on my list. But the people are the strongest bonds I have to this place. There are younger family members I can still help (mostly in minor ways) and now my foster sons. Travel during the school year is difficult (except for short trips) and even the summer is challenging around camps and football practices. I recently built a camp on some lake property with my nephew because we can usually get there, even after Friday night games. I have a trip to Pidgeon Forge planned for fall break: staying in a hotel with indoor swimming pool and visiting attractions like NASCAR go-carts and magic shows. I have lived here all my life (with work residencies in Knoxville, Charlotte, DC, Macon, Philadelphia, New York, Chicago, Tampa, and St Louis) and I am quite happy to know I will most likely live the rest of my life here too. My adventure is living.
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Home sweet home got me thinking.. sometimes we have to assess what & where that sweet home should be. Does it still suit & soothe us?

Met an adventurous older lady today. Said she left for a holiday a few years ago... Left her hot, dry, boring state of abode, found a place with mountains, beaches, rivers. She loved it so much she just never went back!

Sigh.. maybe sometimes being wildly impulsive instead of always being sensible & practical pays off?

I too am happy to be merely at home today 😊. But I AM on the lookout for that magic mountain, beach, river land!
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Becky: home sweet home! 😊
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mistake posted, I erased.
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I regret even responding to IhateSnape's post. Usually I know better.
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Apparently, IhateSnape's thread(s?) got removed. S/he sounds like a troll provoking emotions and comments
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golden, Gershun and Barb: Thank you all so much.🧡
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Becky: Thank you very much. I am glad to hear that you're home. Nothing like your own bed.💗
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I'm so glad your'e back at your own home Becky~
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Got home late this afternoon. I have two new ports (one to use starting next week and one for backup. I hope they last for awhile. Be happy to get back to doing my hemodialysis at home. I hate doing it at the dialysis center. It's noisy and too many smelly people. Plus they try to talk me into doing peritoneal dialysis which to me would be a last resort.
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Lea said she would not be inputting on milhells stuff again. That’s the end, that’s the natural resolution of the situation, not ppl coming in on one or the other side. Leas not gonna reply, she says, so that should be the end with no white knight defenders.

The Ukraine situation is terrible, Russia said before it wouldn’t start executing ppl, and here they are doing it. Even if you have other concerns it’s normal to be concerned about these things.

That said, milhell, you probably can’t make this place where mil is any better.
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Llama, I'm sorry for the loss of your cousin. A long life.
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Dude. Seriously you have bigger problems in your own life than to focus on the Ukraine. Again focus on your own dire situation.
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If anyone really cares what is on my mind, here it is.

My bosses wife is from the Ukraine, I help her a few hours a day. I read her news and it sickens me.

On the 24th, Russia is planning a mass execution of the Maripol defenders on a stage built on the ruins of a theatre they killed kids. This will never be on US TV.

I guess my life is not as bad as it could be.
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MIL, you didn't "disagree" with Lealoniie. You said she was judging you. You told her to look in her own back yard. You insulted her.

Disagreeing is saying "I don't concur with that; here are more facts thar clarify the situation". You are name calling. Using threats and sarcasm.

No, I am not a moderator or an administrator.
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Fine, she is AWESOME. A great intellect. Judge all you want.
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Correction you are laser focused on one person whose post was helpful. You got triggered by her reference to the serenity prayer and your anger over husband's addict sister was transferred to said posters reply to you.
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This must be a clique then. I am sorry for stating how I feel.

Do you run this site to determine, who has a place here?

You messaged me the same thing you posted here to "help."

Do you care for anyone? Or just determine who has a place on this site?

All because I disagree with one person.
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I'm glad you read my comment.

I mentioned the liver transplant because Lea has been through ALOT of caregiving between her parents and her husband.

MIL, YOU are treating her badly. You insulted her. What on earth do you mean about "what's in HER backyard"? Who is telling you "stuff" about posters here?

She wasn't judging you. She was giving you advice. Good advice.

We are trying to help you. If you don't want to hear how other people view the situation that YOU'VE presented to us, then this isn't a good place for you.
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Barb, I had read your comment. Hopefully no one treated her badly and calling me a troll is offensive.
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Llama, I'm so sorry about your cousin.
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Llama, so sorry about your cousin.
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llama - condolences on the loss of your cousin. She certainly was "a force". I know you will miss her.
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Lealonni seems like a very nice person and post really helpful things here. MIL Hell this isnt about her but about you wanting to scapegoat someone because your own life is out of control. Get it together and get help for the terrible situation you are in. I get it that it's easier to hate someone you dont know then focus on yourself and the **** you are dealing with but that's not going to achieve anything positive in your life.
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PB: Thank you so much! My cousin was an amazing person.💕
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Since I was directed here because you are talking about me. Yes, I feel judged by that Leilani person. She is rude and I do not need her making me feel worse about myself. She should look in her own backyard.
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I sometimes check out the people who report those feelings and usually can not see anything amiss. Some people make a habit of rejecting any advice or narrative that deviates from what they want to hear, and sometimes people seem to go out of their way to find hidden meaning and nuance in everything they read. The most dramatic among them tend to be angry and seem to delight in divisive arguments and name calling, essentially doing everything in their power to provoke the kinds of reactions they are ranting about. 🤷‍♀️
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Someone on another thread said s/he was feeling "judged" here. I found this and thought it was a useful exercise.

What to do when you are feeling judged?


Feeling judged by people you meet
Manage underlying social anxiety. ...
Practice being okay with being judged. ...

Consider how often you judge others. ...

Notice the negative assumptions that you're making. ...

Ask yourself if you know for a fact someone is judging you. ...

Come up with compassionate answers to your inner critic.
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Llama, I am sorry for your loss. Your cousin lived to be 102, and was able to live alone at 100. Wow! Yes she was a "force of nature.'
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