I want to thank everyone for all the information I had received over the last few months. It was a very big help. I hope that everyone that is signed up for this great web sight will continue using it. At times I was lost with what to do. This Aging Care has so much good information that would and will help anyone out there that has trouble with a loved one.
I did have to put my mother into a home. I just could not take care of her like she needed. But, sorry to say she was only there for 1 1/2 month then passed away. I know she hated it there, she wanted to come home. I did not know her life was going to be taken so soon. It was not easy. All of my complaints that I have had for this last year are now my regrets. I loved my mother and will miss her very much.
Thank you all again.
We never know exactly what the future holds. You obviously loved your Mom and I'm sure she knew it. I feel when we or loved ones reach a certain place in life, there are no "good" options, just options. Who can say what the best choice is? We are not privy to the future. The good Lord in his mercy does not let us see. We could not handle it all if we could see everything it holds. Please don't beat yourself up with regrets. It is a hard job. They complain--we complain--the whole situation is not what anyone wants. I wish you peace.
Give yourself the credit for doing the best you could at the time, with the knowledge that everyone had at the time. That’s the best that any mother and child could hope for. I miss my mother too, after many years, but I know that we both did the best we could. Make sure that what you remember and miss is her, and not what you think that perhaps you did wrong. That last won’t help you or her. Keep good memories, not regrets.
Love Margaret
Be at peace knowing that your mother is no longer suffering.
In time, you will realize that complaining is completely normal when we are in a stressful situation.
Sweet memories of your relationship will take the place of the negative feelings that you are experiencing now.
It’s fine to acknowledge how you feel during the grieving process but don’t become stuck.
Seek help from a grief counselor or a support group if you feel that you are struggling to move forward.
Your mother knew how much you loved and cared for her and would not you to feel guilty about anything. She knows that you did your very best.
It is difficult to witness when a LO is not well or happy, and we can’t make it better.
Remember that you cared for your mom as best as possible .
My Mom died last month.
Give yourself some time. Grieve but don't hold onto the sorrow.
I can tell by your post above, that you loved her, and gave her your best.
Please don't waste your time with regrets. We've all had them in our journeys, but I decided early on in my own personal journey that I wasn't going to let them take hold, as I knew that I did the very best I could and that's all any of us can do.
So be kind to yourself now and find time to rest and recoup from all you've been through. Your mom would want you to now take care of yourself.
God bless you.
Sorry for the loss of your mom. Be gentle with yourself. You placed her where she could get the help she needed. I am wishing you sweet memories.