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I agree with the others, book. Check in with doctor.

pam - I think we all are a bit more distracted than usual these days.

gershun - that is weird. The rash could be stress but the ankle????
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Book, I would take the chest pains seriously. Please look after yourself!

I woke up today feeling like I twisted my ankle and with a rash on my face. What gives? Did I walk in my sleep? Very weird.
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Book, I feel your stress about not wearing your mask! At work we have to wear one in the hospital.. I admit I go into my "office" and take mine off to chart, etc,, because the dang thing is HOT!. I cant tell you how many times I have started to walk out into the hallway and remember I am not wearing it,, I panic!! Or I get all out of my PAPR and get everything cleaned, and step out of the clean room with out my surgical mask.. OMG!! But I am going to suggest that if you keep having chest pains.. please call your DR. It could be stress,, but it may need looked at. Some things are NOT Covid.. they are real other issues
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I didn’t realize I was dreaming. I was walking in public with people around me before I realized that I wasn’t wearing my mask. I panicked. Then everyone around me wasn’t wearing masks, too. And I was scared, upset... This dream came on after I saw the news of Californians refusing to wear masks and social distancing. The walkways, the parks and the beaches were crowded. I started worrying about the hospitals.

This morning, I woke up with severe chest pain. I’ve been having it all day today. I haven’t really been watching the news on Covid. I’ve been watching Reddit, MaliciousCompliance, iDon’tWorkHereLady, Instant Karma Dashcam videos, ATC aviation and singing along with music videos... Anxiety and Tense body (couldn’t stretch my arms up or down or across, couldn’t turn my head). ... I just did my stretching exercises despite the severe chest pain. I just made sure to breathe slowly and deeply. As I was typing the 1st paragraph, my chest pain shot up... But at least my pain level has gone down... Fear of the Unknown Future.
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Glad,

Aren’t dreams funny? My cousin called me a couple of days ago and said she had a dream that she and I drove to Florida to go to the beach.

Wait, this is the funny part. We were on a motorcycle! LOL I hate motorcycles, so does she.

We only had one helmet and we were taking turns wearing the helmet. Hahaha 😂. We both giggled about her goofy dream.
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I sure spent a lot of energy last night trying to find tickets for a show. Yes I bought the tickets in a dream, yes I was searching for the tickets in my dreams as well.
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To Gladimhere
I would like to respond. I personally, don't have any children, I didn't get married until I was 48. My wife was 56, it's her daughter. She is 57 and hasn't worked since I've known her, 22 years. Her husband retired and moved the family to Tenn. and he was the only happy one out of the 3. She would let us know that she wasn't happy living there and that she was coming back to California to live with us.
This happened every 2 or 3 months, that's how long it took before shit hit the fan at their house due to her excessive drinking. Then one day she says she is on her way. Ready or not! So I gave in and said it would be ok as long as you help me with her Mother.
I get Social Security and a pension, my wife didn't qualify for S.S., not enough credits. But she get's half of what I make through S.S., being as we have been married for over ten years. And we can work with that. We live in a mobile home with 2 bedrooms, one half the size of the other. It sleeps one.
She tells me she is bringing her son also, but they are going to rent an apt., and both look for jobs. They arrived last April, 2019. They both moved in right away. He found a job at an amusement park, after 3 months and has not worked since the Corona Virus. She never did look for work, but she did look for and found the liquor store. I still cook, do the laundry for my wife and I. Vacuum, do dishes, about every other day, express our dog 3 or 4 times a day. She can't go on her own. And do the shopping as needed for my wife and I and enough to include my wife's daughter and 25 year old grandson to eat during meals if they want.
What I get in return is a few hours a week where I can get some space and that doesn't always happen because my wife want's to go everywhere I go. I think she, my daughter-in-law, has cooked 4 or 5 times in the last year. She feeds the dog after I get it, the dog food, ready. She vacuum's their tiny bedroom. And she helps with watching my wife, because she will roam.
When she first got here she said she wanted to know about how to get paid for care taking. Her Brothers wife works in that system and told her what to do to get info. on it. But she has done nothing to get that info. And I think that's a wrap. So now I and my wife now live in a overcrowded house where I get some extra time off for myself. I only see the boy a couple of times a day as he never leaves the room. And the daughter has no problem sitting and watching tv all day.
So am I paying my daughter-in-law fair wages. As a matter of fact no. I charge both of them $20.00 a week. That's $160.00 a month, for a place to live and your not going to starve. Hey, they seem fine with that. I bet. You can't find that anywhere. And now my wife and I are stuck with them. So it can work both ways.
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Bluemoon, off topic, and no need to respond. I hope you have a care agreement with your daughter and are paying her legally and fairly. I was the unpaid daughter caregiver, that took such an impact on my financial welfare i may never be able to recover or retire. You don't want the same for your daughter.
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BlueMoon, it is a very difficult time during normal times. Much harder in these current times. I am glad that her daughter is there helping. You reminded me of my dad's situation with my mom. He retired early to watch her. She was into roaming all over the place and neighborhood. I was the daughter helping him with mom. It was really difficult for us. From the time she was diagnosed to her passing away, it was about 25 years.

May I ask if she or you have a social worker? My dad had one. She was wonderful in helping dad and mom get services like meals on wheels (for mom), a caregiver's program to help dad once a week, etc... When both my parents were bedridden, I got one. They provided monthly meetings to help us understand Medicare, elder law attorney, etc....... Please feel free to come and vent. It is really difficult when they have a one track mind.
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I haven't posted in a while. You know what has really been difficult lately is dealing with my wife wanting to go to the store. For the last 4 years she and I have been dealing with her dementia. For a year now her daughter has been living with us and I can't say enough about how much that has helped. I get a little time to myself. But I can't get it through her head how important it is to stay home right now, it's maddening. I know she will probably never understand the whys and why nots. It just get's so frustrating.
She want's to go to the store to get something as soon as she gets home from going to the store and she doesn't let up. I have to raise my voice once in a while and I hate that. Anyone mentions they need to go somewhere, it doesn't matter where you are going and she want's to go. So I take her with me most of the time and so does her daughter. But we get home and she say's she needs to go get something and threatens to walk if we don't take her. Forget the Corona-Virus.
It makes for really trying times. How do I deal with it? I just do. I'd grind my teeth but I lost them when I got throat cancer. You just have to watch them 24/7, literally. This is that worse part in for better or worse. I also have to protect our dog, which she loves to death. Me too! She threw a disc and never recovered fully from surgery so her hind quarters are paralyzed. This means she sits a lot and she likes sitting next to my wife.
This isn't a good thing because even though we feed Brie, our dogs name, and give her treats, my wife is constantly trying to sneak her something more. Now she's overweight and I worry she'll give her something that could hurt her as she doesn't think about what she's feeding her. That's another constant battle. I could go on, it's just a constant battle.
I guess it's good to say that I'm retired, so I can "deal" with it and that's what I do.
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Bookluvr, you are restarting a fad. Remember back in the 80s, it was the thing to do, wear your clothes inside out.😂
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I went to the Post Office to check my mail and send off a check payment. Only when I returned home, I realized my blouse was inside out.
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Vallen, I’d like to share with you on what I do to help me deal with my depression, stress and health issues.... I’ve been doing inconsistently slow or low impact exercises at 9pm. Depending on my mood, I sometimes just do 10 or 20 minutes of it.... Then I have a cold shower to refresh my body, and then go to ‘bed’.... Usually my body is tired and relaxed but my mind is like all over the place (stress). I turn on the radio to a slow music channel with no DJ talking, in very low volume (background music.) I pull out my kindle and read a boring book on very low lighting. After a few paragraphs, I’m struggling to stay awake... I hope you find something that works for you.
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I am okay yet pretty stressed and tired. seems I fall asleep yet. I am hoping that I can start to build up the level of the needed meds I need for stress, anxiety or depression.
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bookluvr,
Thank you, I know that if he was his normal self before the stroke and illnesses he would have kicked his own butt for the way he is speaking to my mother.
2 days after his stroke {30 years ago) he told my brother he was gonna get out of his bed and give him a 1 legged ass kicking if he spoke to our mom like that again.
And now .... I just don't know what to do. I'll be ok and it will get better but, right now. I am just struggling .
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KColtes, feel free to vent. We understand. My father had 2 sides of him - nice and friendly to others but strict, controlling, and critical to those caregiving to him (mainly me.) To my face, we argued, clashed and even had what I called our famous yelling match. Behind my back, he told others that I was a bad daughter. People believed him.... I have always thought of my father as a bitter old man. He was a very bitter person. And did his best to spread it to family... And the daily struggles of not buckling under him...

Just be careful and observant of your father’s behavior. It might escalate as his frustration increases. You and your mom take care.
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I have just about reached my limit. My very last nerve is out and my father is bound and determined to step all over it, Why telling me what a horrible person i am because, I will not allow him to say whatever hateful thing comes to his mind to me and my mother. While, insisting there is nothing wrong with his behavior and It is me just being a jerk for no reason.
I am trying to get him to talk to someone and get medication but, he refuses unless his PC prescribes it and then "he will only take it if he feels like it".
We have always gotten alone really well until now. If everything isn't his way all the time I'm suddenly being horrible and grouchy.
I'm really tired and this is only a small bit of how just one day is in my house is. When he is not hateful he talks, makes noises or sings almost 20 hours a day. Yes, sometimes in his sleep even.
I'm just really tired and need a break from his daily emotional roller coaster
That is how i am currently coping and thank you for asking
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Send, l completely forgot that I have a box fan on my dresser that’s near the only open louvred window. I haven’t been turning it on at nights for months. Oldest sis had recommended I buy this fan to push away the smoke while I’m sleeping. Your mentioning the filter reminded me about the fan. Thanks!
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Bookluvr,
Feel better soon.
With sensitivities like yours, maybe getting a hepa filter for your room as soon as possible. Plan on future spending for the replacement filters.
I spent $129.00 on the machine.
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I reached my stress-handling limit. Woke up at 5:30am with someone burning their trash (illegal since burning trash is permitted at 6am). Woke up again at 7am with another trash burning. I'm sensitive to smoke (cigarette, BBQ, trash burning, etc...) My face stuffs up. If I don't get away from it, my throat closes up.

Then I discovered the kitchen sink and pipe is leaking (water on the floor.) Nephew fixed it. But, I think I reached my limit because I started crying. I don't cry. I hate crying. Crying gives me a d*rn headache. I was finally able to stop it but not before the pounding headache came. It was just a standing there letting the tears fall down. No bawling my head off. And I still got a headache from that. Now, I feel 'off'. I think I was so busy coping with the virus stress, money, work - and didn't realize I was going through depression again. One day at a time. Gotta go dig up that song....

By the way, I almost thought the ragdolls were raggedy Ann dolls until further reading. Nope, you all weren't talking about dolls. =)
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I had a strange dream that my physical therapist was standing beside my bed and told me to get up. It was as if she really said get up and then she was gone.
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What the heck was that dream about! Drove my car into the service pit of a semi truck service bay! People that I love and haven't seen for years were there to help. No, not twisteds.
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Shell, yes my ragdolls cat is so lovable and easy going!! She loves people! My other 2 cats just tolerate her. I got her from the SPCA December 2018. She came from a hoarding situation of 100 ragdolls. She was a backyard breeder. I wanted them all but we were only allowed one. She is turning 5 years old in November and still acts like a kitten. She loves to be brushed, cuddled, held, and I would even kiss her belly and she would let me or anyone else but I have allergies, lol. Oh yeah, I forgot to mention, ALL Ragdoll Cats have BIG BLUE EYES.
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Here comes the wind.
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elaine - ragdolls are lovely!!! She sounds like a doll. no pun intended

shell - they have hairier paws than any other cat I have had but not tufted. They both have gorgeous thick coats medium to long haired. Rocky has a small ruff around her neck and a tiny goatee. Pumpkin's coat is the longer and is as soft as could be. She has strange eyes - very round and soft looking. Rocky's eyes are very large and typical Maine Coon shaped. They have lovely fluffy trousers and tails. 😊 Pumpkin is very spontaneous and rushes at anything she wants. I worry about her going on the road in front. She acts before thinking and there is a pesky squirrel in the trees. Rocky is extremely alert and careful. and a one person cat (me). She surveys the territory and takes everything in before she moves. They are so interesting!!!

glad - a different Easter for sure. I am roasting turkey thighs tomorrow. Love the smell of roasting turkey. I have a canned ham (poor substitute, I know) but can make it work, Next grocery order i will get a proper ham. I have some mint chocolate which is a fave of mine for treats and got some fresh raspberries which are awesome. I had to taste test them tonight!!! I will probably have asparagus with my turkey, and maybe roasted cauliflower.

You have had great temps We are still getting a little snow.

Everyone Happy Easter or whatever other holiday you celebrate this time of year. It is different but still can be good. We have much to be thankful for.
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It will be a very different Easter, kinda, not even the option of visiting the kiddos and grands. Think I will setup a Zoom meeting so I can at least see everyone. DD1 got a mini serving ham, her two kiddos don't like ham. I went to the store this morning and actually scored some TP! Love asparagus for Easter with ham. I have been eating alot of ham this week, took 1/4 of one out of the freezer from earlier this year. So, I got a salmon fillet, will cook together in foil with a bit of garlic and lemon, I actually remembered a lemon.

Did my usual cleaning of the bathroom today instead of Sunday. The temps here on Wednesday were near 80, Thurday mid-70's, Friday mid-60's, today about 70 again. Tomorrow? One of the lowest temps for Easter expected. A high in the 20's with snow. Brrrr!

Today the yard was power raked and cut short, hopefully get that old JohnDeere in for yearly service before it needs cutting again. The guy that did it is a firefighter, so gave him a bit extra. Such a hard life for those first responders now.

Have a great and cheerful Easter all! Be thankful for all you have in spite of the crazy world right now. Cherish your loved ones.
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Golden does your kitties have the toe tufts? I am glad that you have 2 wonderful kitties to keep you company!😺


Elaine, I have heard that Ragdolls are easy going, are they?


My Maine Coon is shy. She doesn't like anybody but my SO and myself and she will bite if you pick her up and she doesn't know you or if you brush her to long--like for 10 minutes. She hates being brush!!
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Golden23, Maine coon cats are beautiful!! They are gorgeous! I have a female ragdolls cat and she is like having a puppy. She greets me at the door and she likes to play fetch with her toys, and she loves to be held and melts in my arms.
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So happy you got those kitties, golden! Ming plays fetch too.

Book, great it sounds like you are doing just fine. Keep it up.
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Love Maine Coons. My little oranges have some Maine Coon in them. They have hairy ears with tufts, follow me around, One wants me to play fetch with her and is extremely intelligent while the other is the friendliest most affectionate thing who purrs easily. They both are energetic. Good company!!!
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