He wanted nothing to do with helping me with mom while she was alive. Except for driving me to visit her in hospital, or rehab. And a couple of times I had to go with her to doctor appointments and asked husband to drive me. Years ago, I made a suggestion about handling something with his father. He got a little angry. He said I 'll take care of my father and you take. care of your mother. He saw how much work I was doing a few days ago for mom's stuff. He said you should buy yourself something really nice. That's his support. There isn't much he can do but still I feel alone, and. getting overwhelmed again. I have complications. Not. Just normal estate work.