Hello: I'm caring for my 91 y/o mother who has Dementia. I had to bring her here from Mexico because my brothers and sister didn't want to care for her anymore. My sister had hired a woman who was just awful, when I went to visit in 2011 I noticed the horrendous treatment and lack of experience this person had so, since my sister wanted to just dump our mother in a low end nursing home in Mexico, I chose to bring her here. This was back in 2012 but as of now, my mother has no health insurance, no legal papers to stay here in the US, even if I'm an American Citizen, the paper work to get her legalized would take years.
My brothers and sister refuse to help financially, my husband and I are the solely responsible for her medical and personal care, we pay for everything but I know one day she might need hospitalization and I frankly am just fed up with being the only one in this boat. My daughter and husband help a bit but I'm here almost 24/7 and I just hate it.
I need help, it's getting more difficult for her to walk, I hate cleaning her up, it's hard for me alone to give her showers, this is making me very angry and frustrated.
I stopped a long time ago asking my family in Mexico to help, I shouldn't have to ask so I quit. I feel alone and abandoned by them, it's just so unfair.
I think I made a huge mistake bringing her here, I should have stayed and come to an arrangement with my siblings, at least in Mexico, she would have some kind of medical assistance. But now neither of my siblings wants her there, so Im stuck.
I hate this, and I'm stuck with it.