Except to turn the caring over to someone else. Check your particular state for any and all resources. Caregiver Burnout is becoming more recognized, and private non-profit as well as municipal entities are starting to address this to help us cope.

A parent's trajectory is not going to change. The dye has been cast, so to speak. But we as caregivers do have choices whether to continue in our own downward spiral or change the situation. The biggest hurdle to get over is the emotional element that often keeps us locked into a desperate situation.

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You are so right, Dunwoody. At least there is no one-size-fits-all answer. And there is no perfect answer. In the US, our culture highly values "fixing" things, striving toward perfection, finding the answers, and doing it ourselves. We have, in general "can do" attitudes, and optimism about the future. Those are all swell traits (I say as an American) but they hit a brick wall when caring for an elderly, disabled relative. We have to learn to accept "good enough" instead of "perfect" and that is very hard.

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