I care for my 65 year old sister who lives on her own with a lot of care (meals, shopping, chores, finances, etc.). She has a malady of debilitating symptoms that do not have an identified physical cause...she has severe anxiety/depression. She takes anti-anxiety meds but won't take anti-depressants because she claims they cause diarrhea (she has diarrhea all the time anyway). She complains about being alone and lonely all the time but refuses phone calls, visitors, etc. unless it's me. I am 55 with a family and a job.
Last week she tried to commit suicide and nearly succeeded. Wrote a note and the whole bit (pills). Ended up in the ICU with a breathing tube and today she is going to the psych unit for 3-5 days. I have set a lot of boundaries with her and insist on help from others for a lot of her care. I arrange all of her care, pay her bills, visit once a week, take her to most of her doctor appts and call her usually daily. Even though I get help with her shopping, cleaning & errands, I am feeling angry & resentful. She is impossible.