For nearly 4 yrs now we have suspected mum has had a problem. Just recently she has had a cat scan which didnt show anything but has since seen a specialist who after assessing her has said she shouldnt drive until further tests. Mum did not do well on spacial or cognitive testing and after being with her all day for the last 2 weeks i am astonished at how she has coped for so long. I dare say theres been alot of deceit on her part and have since found notes to remind her about "what not to say" to us.. she also seems to have a stash of beer somewhere as she keep buying beer but i always find a different brand in her fridge so i quite often keep her beer here now and if shes low ill just bring some up and have a drink with her. I have a sister who,after storming out because mum wouldnt hand her keys over has not contacted mum or myself in a number of weeks. I actually ended up taking mums car without a problem and that may have been a bit of a slap in the face to her. Funny that family members have not been forthcoming at all in the way of help since she cant drive. My sister works 7 days so i understand her not being able to help but i have 3 young kids, a partner that has finally found a job after 5 months off work and is fifo. So i guess im struggling. Every day is different. She has good days then some reallly bad ones where i have to set her meals up and label them between when i pick her up (and if she insists at 530pm as im dishing dinner up for 3 kids that she wants to be home for dinner instead). I have made a conscious effort to exercise more but am losing weight which is not necessary. I eat well and make small times to cat h up with friends-all healthy things to stop me from drowning. Does this ever become managable or do you constantly feel like your drowning!