My husband and I live with my 97 year old Mother. We have been married only 5 years. Second marriages for both. I'm 58 and he's 65. I feel guilty and selfish because I keep thinking we will never have a life without her!! She is in great health and I'm so scared something will happen to my husband or myself and we will never be able to live our dreams. It is horrible on our marriage, we are never alone unless we leave the house. Mom never leaves, I have a sister who doesn't speak to me, she never invites Mom to her house, for holidays or just for dinner. Mom invites herself if my hubby and I go away for a few days. She can't be by herself. Sister does nothing, but Mom "likes her best" and doesn't make any bones about it. It is very comforting to see other people in the same boat although I wish none of us were here!! I just wonder when it is ever going to be my turn. I have no kids, nobody is going to take care of me when I get old. I try not to be bitter but it is very hard.
Thanks for listening.