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My mom has dementia and now lives with me, I have no help from my two siblings(they always have an excuse, or just dont respond when I call), and my 2 adult children has jobs and families of their own. I have been off work due to the fact my mom had lots of dr appts, and also I fcant leave her here alone for over 8 hours! My pay check was short and I had to use some of her money to pay my bills and get us food , whick now I dont have enough to start her in the adult day care(5 days a week,@ $1,600 a month!) let alone hire an aide to sit with her, what happens to me if I lose my job? I do have fmla but that does not help the money problem. Someone please give me some advice, I cry every night and worry all during the day!

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SYLVESTER:

Amen to that!

LME:

You too, baby. At least you kept it real and presented Denise with another option should everything else fail.

TO THE FAMILY:

Sorry I haven't been around much. Have all the MICA (mentally ill, chemically addicted) residents (60 of them!) on my caseload now. ... If you're planning on becoming a counselor, make sure you are in counseling. Anyway, have to go. My own psychiatrist awaits. After me, he'll probably have to see his own.
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something is so wrong with our healthcare system that so many people find themselves torn between getting care for a loved one and earning a living to take care of themselves and family. I've worked in nursing homes and, due to our medical system, they just don't provide care, they have one cna for 10 patients and it's horrible! A patient with dementia can't speak up for themselves and they get passed by unless the family can afford to pay out the big bucks! So that's my vent for today.
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I am in ths same situation. I am a soaked sponge. Geez this is a tough one.
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I'm talking about if they were in their right mind. If you don't work then how are you going to have any money to take care of them and yourself. Then once they die what will you have left and in today's economy getting another job might not be that easy. For sure there are other options available although we or they might not like them, but I can't see such self-matyrdom and more so when their are children to raise unless of course you want your children to curse the day you quit work and made them feel like they were poor homeless people.
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not only trying to find the money to pay for it, those caregivers that are out there, ALL of us know if ou have a parent with dementia/alzheimer they dont even know you not going to work! They dont even remember if you had a job or what you do for a living. There are so many different aspects to caregiving and no one answer is the right answer, we just have to keep talking to each other and maybe one person will benefit from another persons suggestion. I love all my fellow caregivers out there.
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I guess that's true. They would want us to keep working and find them someone capable to care for them. Paying for it is another story.
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I don't think any reasonable parent would want any of us to quit our jobs particularly if we were still raising a child or children
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I need to return to work also. I'm thinking of looking for another person to live in and help out while I work and give them free rent and not sure about how to pay them. Wish I had a home business, but I don't. I've gained 20 lbs from stress eating!!
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Whow Private, you must have someone helping you. I havent quit my job of 10 years, I have FMLA but my problem is I have used all my paid leave up and there is noone here to help me so I can work fulltime, but thanks for the advice of the Salvation Army, will check that out. Where are you from? I know here in Baltimore everything has a long waiting list,no funds or she does not qualify! Im ready to move to Tacoma,Wash. I have friends a grandson and an ex daughter-in-law there who really want me to come and will help me, now isnt that a shame when my mom has 2 other grown daughter here,a brother and sister-in-law!
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I will not quit my job...no way...uh uh. I have only a few more years to retirement and will not have good ole momma have me throw away 31 years of working at the same flippin place. I am almost done.
The Salvation Army has a FREE ADULT DAY CARE. Please see if there is one in your area. I think they only want a little money to cover the drivers I believe and for food. At least that is how the one in my area is...but my mom refused...c'est la vie.
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