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It seems to me when I had to buy prune juice from my parents it was located by the canned fruit instead of the juice section.
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CM, I know what you mean about the religious channels. There are some preachers who promise if you give 10%, then it will come back tenfold. Well, yes, this is true if you receive the same paycheck each time -- doh. If you make $3000 and tithe $300, then you are going to get $3000 the next time, too.

I can personally attest that giving 10% doesn't guarantee that you'll get it back tenfold. I've had months when I make pretty much nothing at all. It doesn't matter how much I gave the month before.

I do give to my mother's church, because I agree with what they do with the money. I also like that my mother enjoys the church, so I do not mind putting in my widow's mite of support. But I can guarantee that giving to God does not bring things back tenfold, no matter what we read or are told.
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Jessie, what type of community? One for our parent's?

From what I understand, those non profit agencies have to disclose their taxes if asked, or you can simply look them up online. I've did that with a few shady animal rescue's who beg for money to buy a $16,000 therapy pool for dogs but... post pics of their family in it.
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Perhaps some of those non profit organizations should have a salary cap on what they pay themselves also.

For some reason I could not find any prune juice yesterday. I was in the juice section, thousands of different cranberry juice, loads of every juice imaginable but prune juice. I have bought it there before but now it's gone?... unless they moved it to the incontinent section? She's only had this problem one other time but I do envision it increasing as time goes by :( also... I did resort to magnesium citrate. The pharmacist recommended this route as it would be quicker to ease her discomfort. She should be fully eased since she woke up fully loaded!! LOL Once upon a time that would have bothered me, now however, I'd rather clean her up than see her straining, upset and pacing for days. Small price to pay. She doesn't have a problem drinking liquids, including water. She drinks more than I do that's for sure.

Man... I just realized I've been talking about poop for 2 days now. Really?
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I look closely at organizations that zero in on "cash cow" categories, e.g. veterans and children. So many of these organizations are totally redundant and not very effective at what they do.

My favorite disabled vet "program" was done recently in Anniston. There was a vet who returned totally disabled (quadriplegic). The community saw his need and built him a home that met his needs. I thought how nice it would be if all communities could meet the special needs like this. It was efficient and transparent. Local companies also contributed, so building costs were probably less. What a great idea. Maybe we should look in our own communities.
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I too have a huge issue with the hundreds and thousands of organizations who are "raising money for the cure" causes and as others have mentioned, if 10% of that money actually goes to the cause you are lucky. It is disgusting....I have always donated my life away and now in my later years discovered so many of those groups were making boocoos in salaries and little if anything to the people they are supposed to be helping...Another issue and I don't want to get wacked for it, but the religious programming that I will refrain from specifically naming but one in particular that is VERY well known and the whole time it is on it is harping about donations and how so and so was literally drowning in debt and then they had an epiphany about wanting to give and so now they are giving a mega load of cash each month and they are wealthy so why do you do it too???? It makes me want to wretch....and how many of our elderly are goaded into giving to them...

Well, on a lighter gripe free comment, I am proud of me this morning. I kept reminding myself that the truck with the claw thingee comes on Mondays so I got busy early this morning and cleared out the attic and got all that junk on the curb for the man and right about the time I got it there, here came the truck and it is GONE!!!! I am so proud of me...NOW I have room to start moving my NH supplies for a clutter free area and am going to really get cracking on my projects like I have been wanting to do. Starting from the attic and moving all the way down to the basement, going to get rid of stuff right and left and make it easy to keep it nice and neat. Anyone who has pets also knows that when you have clutter you are just asking for additional problems because they love love getting into the stuff and either tearing it up and tee tee ing on it....I am feeling so much better already!!!
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Jeanette, going through same thing with my mom. Forgets what she's supposed to do in bathroom and constipated all the time. Try this - warm 8 ounces of prune juice in microwave and add one dose of Phillips milk of magnesia and have her drink it all as quickly as she can. It works! I've also been known to resort to magnesium citrate or suppositories. I try to get her to eat lots of fiber and drink more water, but she doesn't always go along with the program.

Well, all of those charity organizations should be required to send a statement with each request for assistance. Disgusts me that some folks working for non-profits actually live the high life. Either they have no clue or they just want to take advantage. If I don't agree with how they spend the donations I don't contribute.
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I just looked at 403c. What is that? Could I have meant 501c3? I better get some LTC insurance fast.

Oooh, I don't like the nickels and pennies. It is an old trick to get people to open the wallets to "pay" for the gift. And I really hate the telemarketer fundraisers. The phone is quiet this morning, but tomorrow is Telemarketer Tuesday. They go crazy on Tuesday for some reason.
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We still get those pre-printed mailing labels from the Veterans, plus a shiny nickel taped on the inside. I informed them well over a year ago that daddy had passed and to please stop sending them, but alas... another new nickel arrived in the mail. Now, I have to wonder how many shiny nickels actually get someone to donate money? Since my dad was a vet, I simply place the shiny nickel next to his Urn and tell him they said "Thanks".

On a fantastically happy note, mom slept the entire flippin night!! Nothing like a good BM to make on relaxed enough to sleep :)
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Fundraising, aye ay ay. Sometimes I wonder how many thousand veteran organizations we actually need. We get deluged here with requests from veteran organizations. I am beginning to think there must be one for every soldier out there. In reality I think many nonprofits are to provide jobs for fundraisers. I think the government needs to look more closely at the need for an organization before it grants another 403c.
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Oh guys, there is a campaign in this house to google all the fund raisers who send us free preprinted labels birthday cards and the like. Go to the organization web sites and find out how much of your contribution actually goes to the cause it is suposed to help. if you are really lucky 10% of your doanation actually goes anywhere near that poor starving child in Africa and that is before the local gove has skimmed off their share. hubby was in malawi (at his own expence) several times doing research on finding help for children with the effects of AIDs. All the famous charities were there with plenty of workers. the locals called them "Great Whites" that was because they drove big white SUVs down the mud roads splashing the natives as they roared past. In the meantime there were rarely enough rubber gloves for the staff in the hospital to care for the patients or use in the lab. There were fantastic opportunities for Dr from all over the world to gain experience with diseases and conditions they could never see in a western hospitals. These were highly trained specialists in their field and they worked for free. There wer abundant local fruits etc as it is tropical but the natives ate a corn gruel. When he left hubby offered the cleaner the blankets from his bed becuse it gets very chilly in the rainy season. She just laughed and said "I don't have a bed to put them on!" Every rental house came with a gardener, cleaner/cook and a guard.
Pharmaceuticals were not available but they could be ordered from India. M had to open a local bank account and when he left had about $100 left andtold another aid worker they could have it. When she went to the bank to cash the check she was told there was no money. stealing is a way of life there along with corruption. foreign aid even if it reaches it's destination is simply seem as a way to turn the goods into income. These days we concentrate our charity on local causes like the local food banks or individuals we know are in trouble where we know it reaches it's
destination. Very very sad but at least we try to do what we can to prevent fundraisers from getting rich.
So CM stop contributing you pieces of mind to these people it's a waste of time.
Now don't get me wrong i have no problems with Irish people or mean any offence to other posters (My mother did not know if her father was Irish or Scottish!) A charming kind wife of a Senior Cardiologist in the South took me to a lunch meeting where and an Iris man was the featured speaker. At the end she wanted me to actually me the man whose views I did not appreciate so I went politely. So when the introductions were made I smiled and said very quietly " I come from the other side of the Irish sea" We both kept smiling and finished shaking hands and I returned to my gracious hostess. Well rambling as usual but it does feel safe here to express my views.
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i can tell you about an incredible breakthru -- hepc . 15 yrs ago i was told to hang in there , meds were in the developmental stages . of course you figure itll happen too late to help me but in this case they werent kidding . my liver is healing , feeling better every day and the body rushes of o2 / energy have never stopped . ive been putting in 8 hour days all fall and winter wheras 5 hours used to wipe me out .
id like to rest today instead of sloshing around in the slush and light snow , but -- crack - y wants to work ..
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Jeanette, you are absolutely right and this method of marketing - holding out a distant hope like that - is a revolting, emotionally-blackmailing disgrace. As anybody who had any direct experience of AD would understand. They do the same with cancer, with MND, with MS… give us your money and we'll find a cure. Like buggery they will, what they'll actually do is employ a good many lobbyists; and meanwhile the people who are living in reality with these conditions, here and now, what about them? How are they supposed to react to the exciting news, e.g., that by 2050 AD will be no more? That no child of the future will die of leukaemia? That breast cancer will be a matter of taking a once-a-day pill for a week?

When I bump into the guilty copywriters I give them a piece of my mind (assuming they're too big to go over my knee). The trouble is that too many of them are young and callow and have no emotional understanding of what they're required to write about. Their campaigns are then signed off by people who just want something that looks nice and gets the money in. I hate it, hate it, hate it.
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Oh, we do have transplants. That was a breakthrough.
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A trouble I am having is I've gotten jaded in my old age. I've heard tongues wag raising money to cure things since I was old enough to hear. And no one has cured most of these things yet. There have been advanced, but it usually has to do with cutting things out, then wapping the body with chemical hammers that feel worse than the disease itself and can have long-term consequences. We have more cancer than ever. Colds, the flu, and AIDS are still around. People are still having strokes, though fewer people are dying from heart attacks -- probably because fewer smoke and watch their weight better now. All the money being poured into research, and I haven't heard of any fantastic breakthrough since polio that I remember. Maybe someone can remind me of other major breakthroughs that I've forgotten.
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No, it's ok Jessie love... I was starting to feel like I was seeing things. They were a bit tricky.... sigh... least they're trying, right?
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Oh, Jeanette. I see you posted it, too. I should have read on to the last message. :)
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Here is the AD commercial showing the way it is now vs the hopeful side. Maybe the link will stay up for a while. Not a bad commercial, but I wonder how long it will be to a cure.

youtube/watch?v=wqK1NEpNBic
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youtube/watch?v=wqK1NEpNBic

Hurry and look... if it's too late just youtube it. Yes, I got sideswiped but... just look.
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Guilty for complaining? Seriously. I just read your profile. You're taking care of a man who is not old, i.e.70 with cancer and you thinking your complaining?

You have every right to complain, whine, cry. Plus your mom is in a NH with alz/dementia?

Whine and complain all you want. That's what this board is all about! It's hard to watch our loved ones hurting.

Hmmmm.....so, he cleans the pool while your not home if it's dirty? Does he use it, too? I don't know what I'd do about that. Is his primary illness cancer ? Can you talk to him about not cleaning the pool because you are worried about him falling in?

I'm thinking that answer is 'no'?
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Today he decided to try and eat something. so he is going to make a bake potato. Has a potato in his hand and ask me don't we have any potatoes? I said you have a potato in your hand. He said O I do? I"M scared
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He was told last week he has low blood platelets and should see a hematologist. Said no they just stick you!!!
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When I read everything you guys write it makes me fell guilty for complaining. I don't have it near as bad as you do. I'm not changing diapers and he can still shower, But he does things that scares me to dearth, I came home yesterday and he said I cleaned the pool, but all most fell in!!! Why I'm off work tomorrow would have did it??? he said well I did it! I know he wants to fell like he is doing something but. If he fell in he could not get out he can barely walk!!! now I keep thinking of him floating in pool!!! so I make sure its clean ever day!!! going to be hard next week as I go to work at 7.30 .
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Jeanette's post led me to look for the commercial but what I found was a lot of good little booklets that are also available via pdf and/or kindle.

nia.nih.gov/alzheimers/publication/assessing-cognitive-impairment-older-adults

As usual, replace the DOT with the real thing. And preface it with the usual
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No, this is a brand new one. I finally got it. Like I said it's done sneakily in two parts. Like two different conversations, so near the end, when it's sooner than you thought (died) sooner than you think (cure discovered) ... GRRR
I watched a documentary on this disease earlier today.... seems like there is more studies going on over seas than here. Perhaps they'll get very serious when they realize this is the NEXT big cure they need to find.

No, nothing pretty here lately, unless you like being up all night helping your mother poop. If I wasn't so tired I wouldn't mind it so much, it makes her feel so much better... but d*mn, I don't have much to chat about at 5:00 A.M. aside from "push it out mom".
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Oh, and BTW, while the sentiments are there, and often times you find a tear in your eye while watching these things, the reality is it's d*mned hard to do this and it's not pretty!
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Jeanette - is that the one where the woman's husband finds her keys in the frig and tells her 'Don't worry, I'll be here"?

Aging Care has a preview of a song someone came out with to raise money for Alz.

I'm hoping that at some point there is a way to at least stop this in those who are younger. My MIL started when she was fifty. I cared for her, too. I was the one who didn't work, I stayed home and did nothing because I had three small children and her 'children', my ex's brother and sisters worked.

Yeah. And that was before anyone knew what Alzheimer's was. 1981. There were I think three books on the subject and no internet.
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OMG!! I am so pissed right now... probably more my fault since I replayed that d*mn commercial 10 times to make sure I heard what I heard, but now MOM wants her cure. They're tricky with how they stated things but you cannot mistake "we cure" s***.
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Where are you at Lil'pup?
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If you can find this commercial ( I've watched it 87 times now) they are speaking in two parts, but... the biggest statement is "They Cure AD".
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