I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
hope, GLAD you have some company coming!! Don't go overboard and do too much like I did and spend the next several days trying to recuperate. Some of us just try too damn hard if you ask me. There is no need to impress the apparently unimpressible. phbtt
Speaking of that.... Susan, wow, I've told you this before and I still mean it. You are ME but 2 years ago. I did the exact same thing 14 months ago when my son flew into Seattle for work. Made enough food for days, worked my ass off before I left... all for nothing. Her care'r at the time, didn't even use it. They sat around eating junk food watching old movies. My mom was still okay back then... my brothers stopped by (back then) so just go ahead and do what I did. Make some brown rice, throw most of the edible leftovers into a pot... make your dog some nice warm food for a few days :) Seriously though, we try so hard to do our best all for naught. I hope and pray if our loved could verbalize it or show it, that they'd truly appreciate what we do for them and how much time we spend on their care.
I've been attempting to put our taxes together, just to find out I am missing 2 forms from mom's pensions. How I wish I could jus THROW all these papers into the fire pit and have a weenie roast :/ everything just feels so stressful these days and I have the "deer in headlights" feeling. Even when I try to sleep, I can't, I start getting anxiety and no sleep for me :( bleh
Mom is still drinking her shakes and doing pretty good. You do have to sort of warm them up a bit if you use the ice cubed parts as they cause a brain freeze and no AD person needs a brain freeze, lesson learned!! anywho... she slept the ENTIRE night and I didn't. So unfair!! but, I didn't have to get up, pick her up and put her li'l buns back to bed :)
Oh, there was a wild turkey walking through town today just a gobbling away. I think he must have lost his way or his friends? Poor fellow..
It was weird because the woman was grabbing my shoulders and hugging me around the waist. I'm a very friendly person, but this one even went overboard for me. (Hard to do)
Hey anybody ever wonder why I hate the medical business? Geez.
I suggest to Mom to see either of my Naturopaths who can easily tell what blockage she has in her uterus area. But no, she refuses to listen or try anything else. I listen to her symptoms and it sounds like a prolapsed uterus to me. She disses my research, my ideas, all of it.
Today my mother calls me. Oh guess what? I met a stranger who said she thinks my symptoms sound just like a prolapsed uterus! She is so wonderful!
That's exactly what I have been saying to for the last 2 weeks. No reaction.
She changes the subject. Unacknowledged yet again. I totally hate this!!
End of vent.
I spent considerable time before I left cooking foods and prepping meals for Mom to eat while I was gone. She ate *none* of them, other than a couple of the breakfast meats I cooked. The nice divided plates with chicken, veggies and potatoes? Still in the fridge. The pre-cooked cheeseburgers that could be reheated? Still in the fridge. Egg patties for breakfast sandwhiches? Still there. Now it all gets to go in the trash unless I can salvage some of it - but it's been in there for 6 days now, so it's likely all going to go in the trash. I left a note for the caregiver that it was in there, so not sure what happened. Her notes say mom ate soup and sandwiches most of the time when I was gone. (sigh) I guess I won't go to so much effort next time.
Siblings actually visited mom this time while I was gone. Thankfully, they got the message this time and actually showed up. (Last time, I begged them to come by and no one did - they left her alone for a whole week - which is one of the reasons why I didn't go anywhere for a year and a half.) Glad they came to visit, at least.
Jeanette, I have chilled out....I started to work on it some more tonight and decided why??? just going to kick it tonight and start over in the am. I have just remembered I have not eaten properly today which I guess is why I feel faint. I swear that the shakes we make with ensure are excellent for health. I know Mama's physical health is excellent..especially adding all the extras to bump up the calories, I think I will start adding them to my day when I start working again...Mama has developed a little cold today and so she has slept a lot more and the nurse has told me that on these kinds of days, the more rest she gets the better. I am keeping her hydrated so combat the mucus issues... did I just say that??? anyway, the last cold she had it seemed like when I finally let her rest more she was able to get over it quicker than me waking her constantly to ask her if she would eat....so letting her rest...what a day...not horrid, just really really trying.
Brother called at the precise time that he calls every night and tonight I just did not feel like reliving the day...so I let it go to v/m and then texted him soon after...that works best when I am already exhausted and short on patience and of ill temper...
hope, don't beat yourself up You did a lot yesterday, today is relax day. There usually another tomorrow to finish it up.
Mom has had at least 4 of my nutritious delicious shakes now... and has been a happy chipper toothless cute li'l lady!!
Left the pills off at my parents house when the discussion turned to Mom's hearing aids. Dad thinks Mom needs a more expensive hearing aid because the one they bought six months ago isn't helping. Hmmm, what part don't they understand is that Mom's ears are 97 years old and she's been slowly going deaf over the years. Plus Mom is afraid to put the ear piece too deep into her ear as it might hurt.... HELLO.
I got to keep reminding myself *it's their choice to do what they wish to do, thus take the responsibility that comes with those choices*.
When I hear this, all I can think about is "I Love Lucy" when Lucy use to buy a new dress and hide it from Ricky :0
I fight a lot of feelings of resentment, and for a long time I pretty much hated a lot of people along the way, until I realized that all that was doing was making me feel any more ill than I felt already.
I saw some posts this morning on Facebook by the girlfriend of my oldest nephew, both of whom have virtually abandoned Mama a long time ago...I have loved this young man and been so proud of him all his life...until now...Mama was always so good to him and now he is off on his own, does't give a flying flip about his Dad, my Mama, me or anyone or anything else other than his own self serving needs..same with his girlfriend..doesn't work, sits on her butt all day long living off my nephew, yet spews her views right and left about what life is all about and how people ought to live their lives etc. etc. blah blah..Bull$***.....it makes me furious. what do two kids who have never had one stinking thing to be responsible for every known of what we are going through..but again, thinking of it drives me mad...I guess that's their business if they choose to be self serving donkeys...and then again, I guess they saw their Mom and also their Dad, my brother, be pretty much NON PRESENT all those years so I guess their following in the footsteps.
So back to the day at hand..I guess I'll just continue with my efforts at clearing out more clutter and getting the house organized...and keep an eye on Mama. It's so hard to sit here and see her unhappy..she looks so unhappy today...it is heartbreaking..yet I know all I can do is what I AM doing and making sure she is comfortable and knows she is loved...At least the sun is out today...this is a hard road...and a lonely one. I know I am not going to be the same afterwards...heck I'm not the same now....but I think for me to carry on later on I know I am going to have to stay focused on just doing what I am doing and know that later on I will have no regrets...and I will continue on with life in whatever way I need to for ME....for the FIRST time in my life...God willing.....
na na na NA !!
gotta get out today , and work at mike's .
s'colder'n a well diggers a** , in the klondikes .
gotta make money , for my female lackey .
her name is heather , but i call her crack - ey ...
she wants to work seven days , without no slack.
she hasnt seen the x - rays , of my freakin BACK ..
I'd like to not say "hurry home" but your weather is going to be rough and well, we want you safely home.
If you have an extra garbage bag, pile it one, and whoosh you go!!
I LOVE that you took you dog.
Again be safe on your trip (home).
I'd like to not say "hurry home" but your weather is going to be rough and well, we want you safely home.
Staying in a cute little mountain cabin, but "mountain" means exactly that, and I had to park at the bottom of the very steep (and now, snow-covered and icy) road that goes to the cabin, and hike up to the cabin when I got back from dropping my son off tonight. Tomorrow morning, I'll have to pack the rest of my gear out with me, along with the dog, so that will be interesting. Dog, dog's blanket, purse, laptop computer in a case with a shoulder strap, and a couple of fabric grocery bags of stuff to haul down with me - unless I want to make 2 trips, which I really don't. That hill is STEEP. I was puffing like a racehorse when I got up here. LOL I think I'll stuff as much as possible into a trash bag and sling it over my shoulder like Santa Claus. Kinda wish I had a plastic sled to pile it on and I could slide it down behind me....or I could load the stuff, the dog and me all in the sled and go WHOOSH down the mountain to the van. LOL