I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Anyway... it is weirder than people can imagine. It makes me feel sick when she does it.
Son called just now and is doing ok, just very sore. He got smacked in the ear and side of his head by the airbag, so his ear is still bothering him, and he's pretty sore.
Mom seems better this evening, still a little off in the memory department, but this seems to be how it's been going with her for some time now - she does well for a couple of weeks, then there's some new little glitch - memory, incontinence gets a little worse, mobility gets a little worse, etc. Then she's a little better for a couple of weeks, but the new symptom stays.
liver doc called today about my recent ct scan . it looks good cept for a little thickened speck of tissue somewhere between my esophagus and butthole . i aint real clear on what all goes on there but its gonna cost me another dmnd endoscopy .
i dont mind that , just hate the meds - versed , reversed , p*ssed off cops , etc ..
i asked her if the ct mentioned my howling lumbar to which she replied it indeed did but i should take that up with primary doc . ive no problem saying that some of the best info on the web concerning spine problems comes courtesy of the va . im the va test monkey from hell . needle bearings , u - joints , whatever they wanna try im crazy enough to let em . ive no intention of easing up on hard labor .
My boss likes the website, he's the type that I am surprised he doesn't have a huge billboard on the roof of his building with his photo and name on it :P
FF - I eliminated my LinkedIn account months ago myself - it's becoming less and less of a professional networking site and more of a spam site. I never got any benefit from it, and it was just another passing fad, so I don't miss it now that I don't have it. The last straw was when I found out my ex had looked me up on there. He's involved enough in my life as it is because we have children together. I don't need him checking out my business.
hope, it was so nice yesterday I almost wanted to start up the rototiller and get going on the garden, almost... we do have several more months of this to go so I shouldn't be too hasty, it's just that I'd rather be outside doing anything than inside doing house stuff. Fresh air is good for the soul.
Today at work I got this letter size manila envelope with a return address from someone I never heard of.... inside were three very poorly xeroxed cut out sheets of paper with codes and dollar amounts for iTunes... say what?.... after handling these pieces of paper I quickly used some antibacterial hand sanitizer, and threw the items out.
How did this person across country know of me and my work address? Ah ha, I bet from Linkedin. It just creep me out so much I decided me being on Linkedin wasn't worth it for me.
Whew, I have enough to worry about, I don't need this kind of junk mail.
Snow? ohhh... I love it when it snows, just detest all that goes with it once it stops!! LOL! Snow days are meant to sit around relaxing, reading a good book and chill out. Too bad the tv went off... nothing like binge watching some good episodes of your favorite shows.
Hmmm, I wonder how much fun Jessie is having today :)
You know, touching just briefly on something I mentioned earlier...my main concern is not that I feel like some things are directed at me as much as that anyone who might actually be on here for the sole purpose of finding some understanding and hope might go away...and I'm not sure what I'd have done without yall so many times....so I guess I find it better to err on the side of caution and give everyone on here the benefit of the doubt.... :)
I'm just sitting here looking at the clock and wondering where the heck the day has gone already. It's late afternoon and I haven't gotten diddly squat done around the house at all today - dishes and laundry are piling up and I've been chained to the phone and computer all day!
Susan - sorry about your son's accident but very glad to hear your son is okay! I know that feeling and you just can't wait to hug them. Sounds like you've had a heck of a day already! I sure hope it gets easier this afternoon for you. Goodness, you need a break.
My whine for today - things seem to go along smoothly for a while, and then all the bad stuff jumps on my head at once!
So far today:
1) woke up to a phone call that my youngest son (a new driver) had been in an accident on his way to school and was in the ER. He's ok, but will be very sore tomorrow, I'm sure. That first accident is always so scary.
2) one client was frantically messaging me at 6am because there was a problem with his sales site, so I had to spring into action immediately, and without coffee or shower until about 10am
3) another client is busier than normal today, for a Tuesday, and is cranky because he's busy
4) Mom is really having a bad memory week this week - it just seems that every day this week her memory has gotten worse. When I told her of sons' accident, she asked if my daughter was with him - um...no. They live over 600 miles apart. Not sure where that even came from, but somewhere in the recesses of her mind, she put the 2 of them together. Then she wanted to know what that "white stuff" in the containers on the kitchen counter was - she knew I brought it back from my trip to see my son, but what was it? (Mayo, the kind I can only get down south - I spirited several jars across the state lines. lol And I had told her about it twice already.) Then she asked if she could have a banana, or had she eaten too many already today? (She hasn't had any bananas for 2 days, because the only ones I could get were too green and needed to ripen.) Just seems like it's really going downhill this week. One more step on that long road.....
dee, I am also 51. Didn't use to be a private person nor live in a small world. I am now. Seems the smaller the world is kept the less stressful it is and yes, makes me happier. Truly, I can relate to everything you said, including Aunty Acid!! LOL, I love those comics.
hope, have fun outside! Working in the yard is always mentally relaxing and sunny days in the winter don't happen too often!... least not here ;) although we did get 2 hours of it yesterday and you can bet I was out in it!
Carer cancelled today. This is my long stretch without her (4 days) and normally my shopping day so, I am out of depends and ensure... hopefully mom will take her snooze here in a bit so I can make that mad dash to wally world and stock up real quick like. If it wasn't raining all the time I'd tuck mom in her transfer chair and walk there... it's not that far and we used to walk it together. sigh
I guess if folks actually come on here to create fake things they have other issues going on because honestly I can't imagine coming on here to make up things when there is a great big world out there just waiting to be explored...at least I think it's still out there.
It is and always be sad to me to think that kindness is far too often seen as being naive......I know a lot of people see me that way. and I could care less.
Believe me none of these comments are directed at you and no one would be bothering to connect with you if they felt you were in any way fake or untruthful. You describe your situation with Mama and your frustrations, experiences, hopes and fears that there is no way they are not totally truthful and worthy of love and support. You come across as a very nieve person and I don't say this critically, who has little experience with the big bad world and always sees the best in people. You are a wonderful person and I am sure Mama is too but there are some very very bad people in this world who are directing the way things are going and I mean those in high places. We as individuals can only do the best we can and help our loved ones as best we can as you are doing and reach out to others who are truly in need which i personally will only do these days if i see it with my own eyes not charities who raise enormous sums of money, take huge salaries send a pittance to the poor they are "helping' and even that amount is skimmed off before the intended recipients get anything if at all. I have seen the lavish way some 'fund raisers' are able to live and my husband has witnessed the other end when working in central Africa. The aid workers are travelling the mud roads in nice new SUVs while the nurses caring for AIDs patients have no gloves.
Did not really mean to go on like this but once my fingers get going it is often hard to stop.
So in summary you will never have been on here too long. Often people who have been very close to others at a critical time in their lives when the crisis is over do not want to stay close to those who have been their dearest friends. it is just too painful. That is why some posters do not come back and tell us what happened when their ordeal has ended and that is understandable, but for those who do and those who are still struggling it is very therapeutic to hear how they are donng and how their lives have changed post caregiving. it gives thos in the trenches hope and encouragement and idea for their future lives. That is why people want to hear what happened and what worked for them and know if the ideas given were helpful or not.
We love you Hope and it would be very sad to see you leave so don't worry about a few ctritical remarks, everyone has their "off' days