I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
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I also feel so removed from what is going on in the World today a lot of the time. Like I am outside of a bubble looking in at other's lives. I am disappointed too in some people for running away. They act like ageing or caregiving is contageous. Just a visit for a quick coffee seems to make some people act like a deer caught in the headlights. Heck, it isn't like I am going to make them change Mom's briefs or anything like that! Hold onto your dreams for the future and just take things one day at a time....that is all we can do. We are all so great for doing this, even if it doesn't feel like it sometimes.
Hope you may never find or want romance but if it is in God's plan it will find you. I see great things in the future for both you and Book
I am so baffled and emotionally exhausted. Mama has been back in one of her downhill slumps the last few days..her eyes also look very weak...In my heart it feels like every time she does this I lose her a little more and a little more...this morning I was trying to clean her nose and she raised her hand like she was trying to hit me...for her to raise that hand took a lot of strength so I know how much she hates it...I had joyfully found one of those little trimmer things that is so absolutely awesome...it helps me keep her groomed perfectly as she was always such a prim and proper little lady. I want her to be like that now as long as it is comfortable for her. but if she could have I think she might have swatted me this morning....
Jessie...I don't think it's not that you're not treasuring your time...I feel sure you are...quite honestly, I have a lot of moments like that too, even this past Friday, Mama was not doing well at all...for some reason, people think I should call the hospice folks every time something looks different or off. But as long as I have been through this with Mama, I pretty much know exactly what they are going to check and do for her and I can now do all of that as well, so aside from something I don't know is going on, in which case I would definitely call them, what are we going to do??? No more surgery, no more heroic measures...I want life to be as peaceful and painfree for Mama as possible...and Friday, while very scary in a lot of ways for me...I just sat there and held her hand, and prayed while I watched her...I had given her that little dose of Morphine that helps her relax and breathe easily, and she started resting and finally drifted off to sleep, but it's not that i want to lose her, but it hurts so much to see her like this...I see a smile less frequently...I think maybe if she could smile she would, she is just maybe not able anymore...and I feel dead inside...completely dead. Not because I don't love her....but because I love her so much and I know there is nothing else I can do but what I am doing and so I am trying to emulate Mama, be strong, be a lady, know that God alone has control of these situations and let her have her dignity.....My heart hurts so much and no one understands in my family...well, I think my two aunts...Mama's baby sisters do...but I don't have anyone to talk to other than Hospice, and I do that too, but doing that seems to bring about a flurry of activity and I don't want that and Mama doesn't want it..so I got long winded again, but I totally understrand where you are coming from Jessie....(((hugs)))
Jeanette - you asked if something is going on with her lately - I think it's just boredom and the realization that she really can't get out much anymore, and it's making her restless and cranky. She's been checked over very recently head to toe, and has a med checkup coming up next week, complete with bloodwork, so there's no medical reason (at least nothing new) for it - no UTI, no stroke or anything else.
This morning she was up when I got up - I *dared* to sleep in just a bit this morning and wasn't up until after 8am, which is unusual for me. Sat there in her chair dozing off and on until I suggested she lay down - she did, but said, "wake me up when breakfast is ready" - which hit me the wrong way. It was like I was her maid or personal chef - which I guess I am and I resent that sometimes. Oh well, it will pass. I *did* tell her, "You know, Mom, you *could* have gone into the kitchen and gotten a banana or an orange or something to hold you over!" - her response? "Nah. I'll just wait until you make it." (sigh) Part of it may be that I've told her repeatedly that she can only have 1 banana a day and she can't remember if she's had one already (because she'll eat 5 if I don't stop her - not kidding) - yet if I'm in bed at night, she'll go out in the kitchen and get whatever she wants. If I'm up, *I* have to do it. Funny how that memory thing works....
I would not leave without my pibble. Nor my other two seniors (dogs) I'm up to my eyeballs in elderly beings. Poochie, the oldest is OLDER than mom, by dog years.. 18 ! Daphne, my medium dog is now 14.... and mom, well, she will turn 80 in May. I do also have a cat but I'm not so worried about her, she can climb a tree so no boat needed.
haha, don't get me started on my dogs... between me and hope, her cats, my dogs, we'd probably shut down this website :)
Hey, we are getting a bigger storm by Monday (Joy)... I know it's just rain but Oregon is full of mountains and hills and all that rains slides down with the mud.
Whatever shall I do when my brother comes by to give me a break... I'd love to rent a Hotel Room, with my pibble of course, and just sleep. I am so sleep deprived these past few months my get up and go ran as far away as it could possibly get.
Told Dad that sig other might be going away on assignment for 3 weeks, how would he and Mom get their mail? I can't do it. Dad said he would get a taxi.... say what? pay $30 to pick up one or two pieces of mail?
Dad said one reason for the post office box is that he didn't want the church to know where they live as the church might ask for more money. I had to keep from rolling my eyes when I heard that.... "ah, Dad, how would the church know if you owned the house or was renting it?".... Dad couldn't answer that one.
Guess if someone from the church wanted to check in on the well fare of my parents, they would need to rendezvous at the post office :P
brinoz i don't know anything about synovial cysts but i wonder if they could do lazer surgery on it. Otherwise they can inject the nerve roots and stop the pain at least for a while and it can be repeated. Is there a pain clinic you can go to?
Oh, I am at 2 years 5 months.
We do get pretty good at multi-tasking that's for sure. I do the same thing here. Seems like every step has a purpose. Go to mom's room grab laundry, go to garage throw it in, take garbage out since I'm already in the garage, walk through kitchen, do some quick dishes and grab mom a snack, get her started eating, take a quick trip to the restroom... wipe counters off while I'm already in there. I'll do this for an hour or so then I do take a break.
Just finished blending 2 weeks of fruits n veggies for the additional boost to her shakes, while doing that I decided to mince up the baked pork chops/smothered in sauerkraut ... WOW! Toss that onto baked potatoes with some gravy... even a totally toothless person would be able to eat it and it tastes spectacular!! To make life easier I am going to try doing this with whatever it is I eat instead of making two different meals.
I do not have to rake the leaves since the windstorm blew them all away. Whew! Yes, it's still raining.
I always try to get the front yard all done before the weekend because that way if I by chance have the slightest opportunity to do something fun I can do it without feeling like I need to clean the yard first...I think I get that from Mama, she kept her yards immaculate up until she fell down her stairs so I feel like I need to keep them that way now...granted I can't keep it done as much as I'd like or as often as she did, but then in truth she would not have been able to either under the same circumstances I think...I think that has been one thing I have had to get past..feeling like it has to always be done, perfect, right, etc....now the motto is just do it the best way you can and as long as you take good loving care of Mama then that is enough....life is a lot easier that way....
I was damp mopping this morning just to freshen it up and my brother bought me one of those squeeze out type sponge mops...yep, he bought me a mop....anywho...I hate that thing. Mama always used those cotton thread ones and I don't like them either. I have always opted to get on my hands and knees and get down there where I can see it all...that way I can also get the baseboards up close and get it really really clean...I am sitting here looking at my floor dry after giving that sponge mop deal a try and I can tell I'm about to have to get my cloth and hit it.....he has also bought me a vacuum cleaner...hahahaha....his message to me....well, we can guess....urge to kill......
Yep, it's still raining. Rained hard all night along with massive wind gusts. It was too noisy to sleep for either of us.
We also got rid of the land line. No annoying phone calls for us anymore and like you hope, it is no longer glued to my side, I actually will leave it in the jeep a lot of the time.
How you ladies who work from home manage to stay even slightly on task is amazing. I had this dream of taking some online courses to further my education and well, it remains a dream for now.
haha, that's not boring hope! and I agree, things don't last as long as they used to. I'll be even more boring and say all I wanna do it curl up on the couch, find a good movie to watch while it storms outside. That's it.
Jeanette, it may be time to build an arc! I hope you don't get any problems from all that rain! I also keep thinking about but forgetting to tell you....THANK YOU for creating this space for us to vent or share ideas, etc.!!! So many of us, I am sure, are so grateful for it!!
Hope, the older appliances were sure built to last! A repair guy told me recently that appliances today are built to go 5 years....I am having issues with a built in microwave that is part of a wall oven. They couldn't fix it until 4 tries...and then it gave up again. I am going to just wait and get a new one, (at a different' store), and use a countertop microwave until then. Trying to minimize the turmoil from other things in life right now....
I did get to enjoy my yard yesterday...I worked my behind off and got it looking sooo good. It will make spring planting so much more enjoyable having all the pruning, raking, etc. done well in advance. I also got the oven cleaned. Wow did it ever need it too. I have put that off for quite a while and I know why because that is one of most hated tasks...sure made me miss my self cleaning oven, and sent me online to see about getting a new one for here..Amazingly this is the original one that was put in when the house was built..so over 50 years old!!!! They sure don't make appliances like they used to. I already know that any new one I buy will probably last all of 10 years at best...one reason I don't want to get rid of it..Good grief...how boring am I this morning...sorry