I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
right now my aunt confirms this notion to me often . she is in great spirits but bemoans her lack of challenges and triumphs . i will feel relief for edna when shes gone -- its what she wants .. a persons sense of purpose can be gone long before they reach the end of life .
ednas words to me at different occasions ; " i wish i could just go to sleep and not wake up , ill be glad when this is over , i wish i could just lay down out there in the grass and go " . why would i want anything different for her ? those are her heartfelt wishes ..
Yes, my dog would have been euthanized long ago.
Pamz, I remember your father going through this as well as Gershuns mom. Her mouth scrunches up when I moisten them as well, her hands were so swollen last night, oh, I've also noticed the urine output even though there is no input. From what I've read and been told by her nurse, her feet will turn purplish/mottled which is a big sign that it's almost time...
Veronica, thank you for spending such time on a heartfelt post. Mom would have loved your posts and especially your witty sense of humor... she was witty like that :) and a bit scandalous witty at times ;) There is someone from hospice in this house at least 5 times a week. Her nurse comes 3 x's a week, thank GOD she is coming tomorrow even though they all have the day off. She lives in our small town not too far from us... she's taken a special place in her heart for us, they all have. I do love our hospice girls. Her nurse has depacted her twice now... mom lost the urge to push awhile ago, heck I have even done that for her. Sigh. My brothers were here all day today and they have their phones glued to their side. They are still working nights but will do the best they can to be here. Mom's carer, Lisa has spent the last few evenings here... she wants to be here for mom and me. She will be the one helping me prepare mom. No, I won't rush calling the funeral home, not this time. I did with dad and later felt horrible about it, back then though, I didn't know anything about death. Yes! My old girl Daphne doesn't leave her side? She lays on a comforter underneath moms hospital bed as well as very whiney and clingy. My big girl pibble let's me hug/snuggle and cry into her fur as long as I want to...
I Pray she feels a sense of euphoria and morphine like feelings added to already morphine, I couldn't bare the thought that deep inside she's suffering Meh, I really can't bare the thought of any of this...
Susan, I hope your mother is more settled now, my heart is heavy for her also... and so many more loved ones dealing with this.
I'm gonna try and find a comfy spot on the couch ( need to kick off a few dogs first) and close my eyes, they hurt.... mom is quietly/slowly snoring so at least I can here she's alive.... (((hugs))) to all of you as well.
Katie, I am just as scared as you are right now. Honestly I want/need it to end. No human being should be allowed to suffer and linger on like this. Forgive me for wishing your mother for a speedy transition to her new pain/delirium free life
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I feel for you Jeanette. Its been two weeks since my Mom passed and I still relive those moments. I have been told repeatedly that my Mom did not know I was there but I held her hand and spoke to her anyways. I was also told that people in this state are euphoric and I hope that this is true.
I will be praying for you Jeanette.
It really does seem like a surreal nitemare at times...like one is underwater or that this is a bad dream and cannot really be happening. My Mom has been having agitated delirium in the nursing home the past couple days. She is very restless ... They have done all kinds of tests and see nothing but the UTI for which she is being treated. I am feeling really sad and frightened tonite ....frightened it might end, yet frightened that it will go on and the suffering will continue. I never would have believed that aging could be so very rough.
I have learned to zip up my purse using my teeth, and have gotten better at picking up small items that fall on the floor using my toes. Haven't mastered putting on eyeliner, yet :P
Susan, I really am happy your mother was able to come home sooner vs later.
Veronica, although it hasn't frosted it's been colder than normal and not much. I plated a few weeks ago when it was in the high 70's, well 4 days later it started getting colder and rainy. Sigh.
It's been an awful few days for me and it will not get better. Mom has reached the point where she can't swallow. I almost choked her using a tiny syringe to get some liquids in her. I don't know what to do anymore.... do I just stop trying? Am I really supposed to sit here and watch her die like that? How in Gods name am I to do that?? Even swabbing her mouth out, the tiny bit of water on the sponge isn't wanting to go down.... I don't think I can do this, watch her die like this...the cruelties of this disease never seem to end, even with her death it won't end, not for me...I will never be the same again
Why can't my parents roll with this temporary medical issue that I have for a few weeks? And no, my sig other can't take you to the store, that is defeating the purpose of the on-line delivery. Oh well, my Mom comes from the generation where the wives went grocery shopping 3 to 4 times a week. That's not me, I use to go once every two weeks.... [sigh]