I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Cmagnum...agreed...as soon as Mama started having issues i told my brother he needed to stop jumping off her car. ..she definitely did not need to be driving abs we probably should have stopped it sooner. .we were very lucky as she was notorious for giving money to whoever approached her in the grocery store parking lot. .it could just as easily been someone who hit her in the head and robed her or worse. My getting what she needed was worth knowing she would not be on the road again. ..
Something a bit new as dads AL is having bonfire night at 6:30. Hoping rain holds off. I will be able to see how dad is later in the evening if his confusion is better or worse.
I didn't sleep much last night. Mom yelled about an ugly face in the room at 9pm after falling asleep at 7pm. I reasured her all was ok and that mine was the only ugly face here. She seemed to feel calmer after that. Then at 3 am she began yelling and asking where she was...again I had to go in and calm her down and left a low wattage light burning. All was quiet after that.
I totally understand about people running away when you are in caregiver mode. I am filing away who did that, and will make myself scarce someday from their lives if they start calling once Mom is gone .Fair weather friends. How creepy they are! (Now I sound like Wally Cleaver).
So in some ways I have only myself to blame for having to do it all but at the same time when you know your Mother is elderly you should assume that she might need help and offer to right? and thats what I could not understand with my family.
I resented the fact that when my Mom was dying in hospital my sister was camping out by my Mom's bedside like the dutiful daughter (that she wasn't)
Ah don't get me started.....
Yeah they are busy but they make time to get their teeth whitened and to get their hair done etc. etc. so whats more important. Its all about priorities isn't it?
You will handle that time well cause it takes tons of strength to care for an aging loved one and you are doing that. We are the strong ones.
No casseroles were brought when my Mom died. In fact after a couple of days it seems like everyone went on with their lives. Easy for them since thats what they did when my Mom was alive.
CM did you just laugh and tell ex SO "Now you know how I feel tonight"
Why didn't he just call the cable company. That's probably what he will have to do anyway. Poor baby he will have to suffer probably not in silence if he is anything like my hubby. Does he have any heavy duty pain meds left from his surgery
why on earth do I need to tell him just about every time I need help in opening and closing the passenger side door of the truck? He just heads to the driver side, gets in and starts the vehicle with me standing outside.... [sigh].... believe me, if I could open the door myself I would if I felt I wouldn't fall out trying to close the door :P.
Not a whine today but I am just thrilled with the fantastic nurse and health aide that hospice has sent us. I am so grateful to have found these wonderful people.
You know this might sound pathetic but I know you are all non-judgemental people so here goes. When my Dad died when I was a little girl I took it real hard and ever since then I prayed every night that I would die before my Mom did. Well here I am and my Mom is gone so God obviously has other plans for me.
I guess what I am getting at is we are all doing our part to make our Moms and Dad's life easier in their final days and maybe that was God's purpose for my life. I don't know. But whatever his reasons are for not answering my prayer I guess I'll have to trust that and move on.
I'm sitting out on the deck because it seems the only place I can breathe. It's also the only place I feel normal. It is so confusing. ..this all stuff. ..I want her here, but she looks so sad. .most of the time. I try not to make her feel like I must have her stay because she has been such a fine and dignified lady. .butt how do you go on without them.