My dad moved in with me last year. He is 87 years old, but people say he looks like he is in his 60s. He is healthy generally except he needs to wear hearing aids and he has frequent urination.
He is a smart *ss and he raised me with talking down, negative reinforcements. As I grew up, he constantly tells people how bad of a daughter I am. Now he lives with me and my quality of life has decreased dramatically. There are drops of food on the floor, he throws recycle trash on the floor, he doesn't flush and he pees all over the toilet. I find myself constantly cleaning after him. I become depressed dealing with him, stuff he says would raise my blood pressure to an extreme. I feel like choking him and I wish him dead all the time. No matter what I do (take him places for short trips, take him to restaurants...etc), he still complains to people that I am a slave driver (I asked him to clean after himself), and he would make fun of me by mocking me about my appearance...etc. I don't feel like doing things with him, I don't feel like hanging out with my friends, either. Socializing has become tasks for me. I don't know what else to do. He is getting SSI so he can't afford assisted living. I really don't want him around anymore, and if he doesn't shut up and be nice, I am afraid I will really choke him one day. I feel he is in danger