My mother uses a walker and has trouble making it to the bathroom on time.

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My mother uses a walker and has trouble making it to the bathroom on time. This almost always results in a mess. What can I do?

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That is a really sad situation, isn't it kkinsel?

What if you brought the meal in to him? Reserve a small community room, bring a tablecloth, a vase of flowers, nice china and silverware, and a meal from a restaurant. My mother enjoyed these special meals in the NH. Her favorite was for us to bring in Chinese food. Whichever of her 7 kids was available would join in. Often it was just 2 or 3 of us, which is really better for conversation anyway. We would bring a homemade dessert, and share it with the staff. If your dad enjoys wine or beer, bring that, too. If ordering from a menu is especially pleasant for him, drop off a menu on your visit before the meal, and let him order. Having several days to anticipate the event may enhance the whole experience.

If an accident occurs you'd be where help was immediately available.

I believe in keeping up the pleasant activities as long as you possibly can. Sometimes that takes some creative flexibility.
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My dad is in a nursing home with vascular dementia and has bowel incontinence. He loves to go out to eat once a month but my husband thinks it's an accident waiting to happen. What should I do? I hate to tell him I can't take him out anymore.
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Make sure there is a waterproof mattress pad on the bed, and a large waterproof, either disposable or washable pad, over the sheets. When my mom (with dementia) needed to start wearing "briefs", she asked why such fancy pants. I told her they were the newest kind of Kotex. She accepted them without question. She never complained after that. Currently I have an aunt who would love to just wear underpants all day, but she has accidents. She asked why she has accidents. I told her it was one of those "over 90 things". She will wear either the briefs or regular underwear with pads during the day and briefs at night. I tell her she should go to the bathroom every hour or two during the day, but she doesn't. She did decide to wear the briefs during the day after a couple of daytime accidents.
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If your mother has a prolapsed rectum and bladder, perhaps a vaginal prolapse also, she should see a good gynecologist.
She may be too elderly for surgery. I don't know. She may not want surgery at this stage of her life. She may just want to live in peace and harmony. That, I do understand.
p.s. Kegel exercises are a waste of time and energy. They only benefit a YOUNG post-partum patient.
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I sometimes have the same situation. I bought commercial carpet in her bedroom. Really easy to clean. I have even set up a bathroom schedule. This really helps. She stops drinking at 7:00. She does kegel exercises while she is laying down for around 3 minutes. These tips I got from a specialist. My mother has a prolapsed bladder and rectum. The results are very good.
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Arrange the bedside commode right next to her bed. Empty the pan underneath every few hours or at least twice per day.
No big deal.
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A toileting schedule and bed side commode would be your best bet.
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My mother-in-law has started having problems lately - not just urine but bowel movements also. I don't mind so much if she doesn't want to wear diapers at her apartment and leaves a trail from the bed to the bathroom there (except we have to take the soiled bathmats home to wash because she can't lift the wet bathmats out of the washer) but after she had one accident while at our house we bought her diapers and insisted she wear them while at our place. She's been sleeping in my daughter's bed and I don't want that soiled. She's been staying with us a few days and nights because she stupidly climbed up on a counter to wave goodbye to the great-grandkids and broke her leg getting down. Just a small fracture but it hurts and she's supposed to stay off her feet and my husband thought she'd be better off with us - after being woke up a few nights to take her potty he's changed his mind and she will be back in her place today YAY! I think at 88 she really needs to go into a nursing home instead of the senior apartment complex she's in but she won't want to spend the money. It's HIS mother and he'll have to be the one to put her away if necessary but I'll go stark raving mad if she stays with us any more. I'm so glad my parents both died in their mid-70s and I didn't have to go through this with them.
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Hi there, they also make great liners, much like the maxi pads used for 'that time of the month', but they are more absorbant-and a bit less embarrassing for mom.
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Oh stop, What is wrong here? PUT THE PAPER PANTY ON THE PATIENT AND BE DONE WITH IT>
Incontinence is a normal phenomenom for the older generation, so accept it! Be done with it. There's nothing wrong with Depends or better yet, the house brand from Kroger, Publix, Rite-Aid, CVS, IGA, etc. Put it on. Change it frequently....no "sores" will occur.
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