If you don't pay attention to her then you are slighting her. As this is 2013, I bought champagne for midnight. She told me that she might not make it to midnight. I asked (it was 8:30) if she wanted the champagne now. She said yes. It was 11:30 and she said that she is going to bed. I noticed that her attitude was (what I call) weird. She woke up this morning giving me short answers to my questions (how did you sleep or do you want your tea). When I asked what was wrong, she told me she wanted champagne at midnight. She went to bed because she was tried of waiting for me. My mother likes to hold grudges. I live in her house free of charge. However, I am the one who takes her to the doctor and shopping. I am tired and have no place to go and no money. I have to live here. Any suggestions?