I take her to doctors, take care of all her bills, set up a bank account where I deposit money for her.... everything. But she has no boundaries. According to her, there shouldn’t be any “privacy” in a loving close family. It is cultural - she is Eastern European and moved here in 2010.
The other day she shows up (without a call or text of course). I opened the door and told her that I had people over and made it clear that now wasn’t a good time. She pushed her way past me, went to the kitchen to got what she needed and then stormed out. So since Monday she is upset and calls me ungrateful and that I “didn’t let my mother into my house and tried to turn her away”, and that she isn’t welcome in her own daughter’s house any more.
She is rude to my husband by not returning his “hi” and tells my daughter that she was so much better to her parents than I am to her. When I went and tried to talk to her, she told me that “talking things through” is an American concept that doesn’t work and how would it possibly work when her own daughter is rejecting her.
I guess i am I am just venting because I have no idea if I can do anything. But if anyone has an advice, please let me know.