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My father with dementia now has two imaginary girlfriends. He cries for one because she does not eat. He tries to feed her his dinner but she won't eat. It's his favorite one because she has blue eyes. The other girlfriend has dark chocolate eyes. He doesn't speak much about her. This is absolutely crazy!!! I feel so sad for my home that has to hear this.. He even told my mom to stop by store to buy flowers and candy for his girlfriends. Geez!
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My father with dementia now has two imaginary girlfriends. He cries for one because she does not eat. He tries to feed her his dinner but she won't eat. It's his favorite one because she has blue eyes. The other girlfriend has dark chocolate eyes. He doesn't speak much about her. This is absolutely crazy!!! I feel so sad for my home that has to hear this.. He even told my mom to stop by store to buy flowers and candy for his girlfriends. Geez!
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Oh lolasamber, that is so distressing and scary! My heart goes out to you and to your whole family. I hope that having a diagnosis will be at least a little helpful. Is one of the options being considered a dementia care facility?

Please keep us informed. Warm hugs to you.
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MIL has been diagnosed with "Frontal Lobe Dementia" . She started having a friend (imaginary to everyone but her) that she talked with on the computer. She and he had intimate conversations and became involved in each others families. She started thinking she was being raped and beaten during the night. Over a very short period of time she just went downhill. She had MRI and they said she has significant deterioration in the frontal lobe of her brain. She is now not eating or drinking because she thinks she's being poisoned. Presently in the hospital but don't know what's next. Really scared for her........................
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She actually lives with her daughter who explained to her that these people are not real and told her that she was going to delete the game from her computer. That distressed her so that instead she left the game on the computer but got her several new games to play hoping that it will distract her from Jack. She is almost 90 and been so blessed healthwise. This is so distressing.
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Bless her heart. Could you go on line and sign Jack up for a parenting course, and report his progress to Mother?
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My mother in law is convinced that the cartoon characters on her computer card game are actually real people who speak to her, especially Jack. She talked about them all the time and is now distressed because she found out that Jack (who she really likes) beats his kids at night. She has a whole scenario about this cartoon character guy .... his wife, how he's interested in her, that he plays cards during the day for a living, etc. What's going on? Anyone have any ideas?
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The behavior that Betsysdaughter1 describes is so similar to what my mom has been doing--and other commenters above from 2010. Entering into her world is usually the only way to calm the agitation. My mom has UTIs from time to time, but the hallucinations continue regardless. The common delusions of children and "aliens" or little people doesn't seem to be a coincidence. One of the doctors told me that Lewy Bodies Dementia has characteristic delusions of this nature. Not that it matters. My mom tried Nemenda after the delusions grew constant, but the delusions were worse after about a month. And she injured herself trying to get to the door to let her "fiance" into the house, requiring stitches, ER, more disorientation, infection, and eventually a lot of vascous ulcers on her legs due to sitting in a wheelchair--poor circulation. There is no fiance, no wedding, no choir, no children. Helping them remain safe is the most important thing to consider, I think. Sometimes sedatives or Serequel or the like have to be prescribed, and sometimes, as in my mom's case, full-time care at a nursing facility is required. She has been having nearly the same delusions since January of 2010. Now she is in hospice for peripheral vascular disease.
----I think drinking water is a good point. Dehydration can cause all kinds of problems, imbalance, and just make all things worse. My mom was hospitalized recently for infection in her leg wounds and they said she was very dehydrated and anemic.
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How long has this been going on? Could she possibly have a uti? That is one condition that can cause this type of behavior.

You were very kind to get into her reality and take her seriously. Putting up the light must have been reassuring to her. Too bad it didn't last.

How does she know that those people are illegal? Has she asked to see their papers? :) I wonder if she has read some article or seen some show that she is mixing up in her memory. Are there any nighttime noises that might be triggering this interpretation? For example, does the water heater cycle on later at night? She may be able to hear some frequencies better than others.

Challenging her on their reality probably isn't going to work. She needs to know that you are on her side (as you were with the lights.) I wonder if it would help to point out that these people obviously don't have harmful intentions. They are neat and tidy and clear out their sleeping bags at dawn. You've never seen any trash, beer cans, cigarette butts, etc. in the morning. If they are strangers passing through maybe they don't realize this is private property, etc.

But first I'd check the possibility of some kind of infection, such as a uti. Also try to see that she stays hydrated. (My mother drinks NO water. That's a tough one with some elderly.) Also keep alert for other signs of declining cognition or increasing confusion.

You sound like a loving, caring daughter. You'll make it through this bumpy journey.
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