She is angry and frustrated with caregiving. We are trying to help where we can. We’ve always been close as a family, but as we question her about her assets ie: money in mutual funds and savings, she says “you’ll find out.” She always told us when her & my dad pass, all of their instructions are in their safe. But when my brother asked how to open the safe, she said “no.” She knows about the 5 year lookback with a Medicaid application, she had her mother sell her house for $1 back when she was living prior to entering a nursing home. Whenever I ask what her plans are, she’ll respond “I don’t know. I can’t even think about it.” But the clock is ticking and dad’s cond. is getting worse. My parents scrimped & saved their entire marriage so they’d have $$ “ if they needed it” and always said “ you kids will be set one day.” What I’m asking is how do we get her to stop being so secretive with her own kids and help her with financial planning. Also, I’m pretty up on the Medicaid process, but we are wondering how to protect her $$. Dad is currently receiving hospice care in home 2x/week paid for by Medicare.