He isn’t even close with my mom. We rarely see him. When he needs money he visits so she can write him a check or give him cash.
He was never close to her. Neither of my brothers visit often. When they do it is usually less than an hour.
The older brother did not want the responsibility because he has major heart issues and fears he may die before my mom. Youngest brother has had heart issues too.
She has my name on checking account because she lives with me since 2005 and she has Parkinson’s so I fill out her checks due to tremors. Plus, I do her shopping for meds and personal items. When she gives a check to my brother he fills it out so she only has to sign it.
My brother doesn’t even do his own taxes which aren’t complicated. My husband will do it for him.
Neither of my brothers have ever been responsible with money. Older one has gone bankrupt more than once and younger one was behind on child support for years because he was careless with money. His ex ended up having his wages garnished. I don’t blame her.
They spend money on things they don’t need, go into debt and so forth. Youngest one got so many speeding tickets that insurance was going to be too expensive so he no longer has his truck. Maybe it was repossessed for all I know. Now he drives a motorcycle to work.
Should I be concerned about him being the executor or not? My mom is old fashioned, I as the female do the caregiving for her and he as a male does the important things even though he won’t have a clue as to what to do.
There are only a couple of cds in bank. I want her to use that money for assisted living as it is becoming harder and harder to care for her. I’ve asked her to free up that money and I will get veterans help for her too to help pay for it. Not sure if she will cooperate because she is concerned about not leaving my brothers money.
Also my mom put my brothers in charge of cds in a separate bank from her checking account. Not a ton of money. ($20,000)
Her will is outdated, it even list my deceased brother’s name on it as a beneficiary.
I know I have brought up some of these topics before to this forum but I am struggling to know what direction to go in or if there is anything I need to be concerned about legally with my brothers.
I have told her that I am looking into assisted living for her. Her response was that I am sick of caring for her and that outside care is expensive. I know she doesn’t want to be a burden but it’s so hard. I need time for my husband and me again.
Thanks for your help.