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Remove the spark plugs from his car. Lose the keys. Flatten the tires.
Do what YOU need to do to insure the man doesn't kill innocent people while driving around with dementia. It's irrelevant what "he believes" because you know the truth.
If they're sharing a car that can be a problem. She can get a small safe to keep the keys in but that won't stop him from harping on the topic. But I agree of course she has to keep him from accidentally killing someone.
Are you your husband's PoA? If so, read the document to see what activates your authority. If someone else is his PoA, this person now needs to act. Whoever is his PoA needs to present that paperwork to his doctors (all and any doctor he's recently been to). The PoA can go through his medical portal to send a message to his doctor requesting he be cognitively tested. The PoA needs to accompany him to such an exam and stay in the room the entire time (and your husband won't like it but make up a reason to stay in). Then request the doctor write a letter on clinic letterhead with the diagnosis of cognitive impairment sufficient to require the ongoing intervention of his PoA.
You can also discretely ask his primary doctor to write an order to the OT deptartment for a virtual driving assessment. They will give him a more comprehensive MoCA test for his executive function (judgment) and also a physical reaction test. My 94-yr old Mom failed both and then it was the OT's job to break the news that she failed and it would be reported to the Dept of Public Safety who would then send her a letter of license cancellation. This is how I got my Mom to stop driving.
In the meantime you will need to physically hide the keys (both sets) on your person, or disable/remove the car. Tell a therapeutic fib that it is in the shop for very expensive repair -- or whatever narrative he will accept. Do not let him drive. My Uncle caused his own wife to die in an accident he himself caused because his children didn't stop him from driving.
This sounds like an ad for a business used to recruit clients. First consultation is free? Your business logo is also visible on the post. This refers to the first post which appears to have been deleted. They were answering the question on driving and appeared to be recruiting for their paid services.
Don’t expect your husband to see or understand his condition. He will not, he’s lost that ability, along with being able to make sound decisions. It’s on you to be the rational one now. Discussing his dementia with him leads only to frustration for you both. You must see to it that he doesn’t drive again, the risk is too great. Disable the car, or move it to another location he doesn’t know about, whatever it takes. You will find yourself often using what’s called therapeutic fibs, in other words, lies told to him in his best interests to appease him and give you some peace
This situation is very common in dementia. Your husband may truly be unable to recognize his condition, and this is a symptom of the illness, not stubbornness or denial. it’s a symptom of the disease itself, called anosognosia. So do not put in more time trying to convince him, as it may cause him more conflict. Focus on safety, and shift responsibility to the doctor or rules when possible. It’s important to seek support as well.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Lose the keys.
Flatten the tires.
Do what YOU need to do to insure the man doesn't kill innocent people while driving around with dementia. It's irrelevant what "he believes" because you know the truth.
Do the right thing.
You are required to disable his car and take his keys away.
You can also discretely ask his primary doctor to write an order to the OT deptartment for a virtual driving assessment. They will give him a more comprehensive MoCA test for his executive function (judgment) and also a physical reaction test. My 94-yr old Mom failed both and then it was the OT's job to break the news that she failed and it would be reported to the Dept of Public Safety who would then send her a letter of license cancellation. This is how I got my Mom to stop driving.
In the meantime you will need to physically hide the keys (both sets) on your person, or disable/remove the car. Tell a therapeutic fib that it is in the shop for very expensive repair -- or whatever narrative he will accept. Do not let him drive. My Uncle caused his own wife to die in an accident he himself caused because his children didn't stop him from driving.