I have no question. My heart breaks. Thank you all. LU Thank you llamalover, cactusjim and all the others who helped me cope with caregiving. My long journey of eight months of 24/7 is over. I have kept a journal, read about your cares and being worn out and tried to give some emotional help to you all. Cactusjim, I pray you are enjoying the support group and your honey is still close to you. I have some regrets....as all of us do...the times we yelled at our loved one when we should remember we were yelling at the stroke or the Alzheimers or demetia. The lack of sleep, the tedious daily jobs, the missed opportunities. My husband of 63 years was on a train. He asked me when he should get off. I told him when he saw his mother, father and gramma at the station. He asked if I was going to go with him. I told him, no...I will catch up with you. Then he asked...after being paralyzed for eight months...will I walk off the train. I cried and said...yes. Now he is walking with the Lord. I put my arms around him and my daughter prayed. I told him that he could go. He took a breath and then another as I held him and felt his last one leave his body. Though it is hard to have our loved ones at home, I am now so happy that tired as I am, he died in my arms with my daughter and granddaugter with him. He was not alone in a nursing home. No, it wasn't easy and I am 81, but we had a life to remember. I still love him with all of my heart and I thank EVERYONE who contributes to this site. Spread the word. This is truly the help that caregivers need. Thank you to hospice...they really care.