My husband is losing things more and more.

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He has a knife collection but they are here and there. There is one particular knife he has lost and it could be ANYWHERE...I have looked and looked until I'm stressed to the point of being sick. He said forget about it but he won't it will be on his mind until it is found. What can I do to help him not lose things ?

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I totally take care of everything so the stuff he loses doesn't pertain to money; thank goodness! As for the knives. There are a lot from pocket size to hunting and since he is 75 and had them all for many years it is harder to take away when it is MCI I am contending with and not dementia. Even though they are both brain problems they are totally different. Thanks though to everyone for their advice. I can see there are a lot of us in this together. Merry Christmas to you all.
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A knife collection is a very bad idea for someone with a bad memory!
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Dragonbait -- Have you MET husbands? Have you met a person with dementia? Theoretically you are 100% correct, but that theory doesn't work with very young people or people with dementia.
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One thing we did that was really helpful:
My dad used to lose his checkbook constantly (he had dementia of some sort), then would ask one of us to take him to the bank to close that account and open a new one, which after two or three times was just ridiculous. I'm the bossy oldest kid, so I nicely said No...and we would find it in the house. I went into Amazon.com and bought him for three bucks a RED checkbook cover, and we could find the checkbook more easily, certainly more easily than a black or dark blue checkbook cover. He hid all his pistols himself, then couldn't find them, which was fine with us. But he felt vulnerable (lived alone with frequent care visits from his kids), so we would find knives and baseball bats in his bed! Poor thing. We finally "tricked" him into memory care by calling it in-house physical therapy and dietary therapy, which in a way it was. Then a lot of our worries were over and when we visited, he was always clean and dressed and liked to entertain us and the other residents. It's tough taking care of our elders, and I am glad this community is all in it together!
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Ditto, Tarajane and Errett. Same exact thing here.
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Errett, you are exactly right. Not where they should be. It also drives him crazy till it is found therefore it drives me crazy as well. Don't know how to avoid this. Also he can look in a place for it and I can go right behind him and find it where he was looking and he says WHERE was that and I tell him and he gets so disgusted with himself that he didn't see it.
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Wish it were that easy with us. The things my husband loses are usually PUT AWAY. Just not where they belong. Almost always someplace they could be normally stored but not where they should be. Many times lost while away from home. Have to track them down. Wallets, watches, golf clubs, keys etc. Thank goodness we have found them as it drives him crazy till they are found.
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tarajane, people are always misplacing things, dementia or not. What happens is that we get side tracked and something else catches our eye, then we forget what we were looking for.

If my Dad is looking for something, it is usually buried under the piles of paper he has around. If it isn't urgent, we just wait until it reappears while cleaning.
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rmiller, you are looking at it like I am. However, he just keep finding them when I'm not looking and around we go again. During the day he is almost normal but it is the sundowners that seems to be the time he gets frustrated. Yes, I do keep them in the locked safe, but he found the keys *that I had hidden* and took them all out and put them back in all the places where they belonged. Just really agitates him if I try to move or get rid of them.
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Edahmen, good point!
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