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I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to this community for the support, tips, and guidance you've shared over the past year. Reading through your comments and stories across different forums has helped me immensely. Today, I want to not only say thank you but also share some of the things I’ve learned through my own journey of caring for my grandfather.
When my grandfather began refusing food and could no longer swallow properly, I believe he was giving us gentle signs that his time was near—that he was ready to rest. As caregivers, it’s never easy to accept that reality, even when we can feel it in our hearts. Despite this, we stayed calm and tried to make sure he felt cared for. We gently encouraged him to eat, not to force him, but to let him know we were still with him—supporting him.
When he could no longer eat thickened food or oatmeal, we started giving him baby food rich in nutrients, and to our surprise, he accepted it as a regular meal. We also blended fruits for him, since chewing had become difficult. These small adjustments made a big difference in helping him feel nourished without discomfort.
In the weeks leading up to his passing, my grandfather would frequently call out to me, to my mom, and to anyone nearby. I’ve learned how important it is to respond with love and patience. Just being present and reassuring him that he wasn’t a bother meant so much. Caregiving, especially for the elderly, takes a tremendous amount of patience—but it is deeply rewarding.
My grandfather became bedridden at the age of 89. To help prevent bedsores, we made sure to reposition his body regularly—from side to side and onto his back—and assisted him in stretching his legs and sitting up when possible. We also applied Vitamin A lotion to protect his skin and used specialized ointment on areas prone to ulcers, especially around the waist.
Caring for my grandfather has been one of the most meaningful experiences of my life. Yes, there were days I felt tired or overwhelmed, but knowing he was comfortable and cared for made it all worth it. Looking back, I wouldn’t trade those moments for anything.
To anyone currently caring for a loved one: you are doing something truly special. Your presence, love, and efforts mean more than words can express.
Thank you again to this community for being a source of comfort and knowledge. I hope that by sharing a bit of my story, I can give back even a small part of what you’ve given me.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Extending condolences to you and your family at this sad time.
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Thank you everyone. I'm not leaving here because I love reading and learning through your stories. I still also have to take care of my grandma-my father's mom-and my parents, who are also getting older. I feel very blessed to be here with all of you.

I'll continue to share my stories as I learn from yours as well.
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I am so sorry for your loss.

May The Lord continue to bless your family for stepping up and giving your grandpa the love and compassion that he so obviously gave to you all through his life.
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My condolences on your loss, and thank you so much for letting this community know we may have helped you. If you have any inclination to stay and help others with all you learned that would be such a good thing for us.
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Sorry for your loss. It sounds like your grandfather had a whole lot of love surrounding him.
You have learned a lot. You tell your story well. Please continue to share what you have learned on your journey. You never know how many people you will help.
So please continue to stay with "us" and share when you are ready to do so.
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So sorry for your loss.
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