Taking care of mom for over 3 years by myself had been increasingly difficult...She's now 88 and when she started living w/me & hubby I knew I was going to be the one to take care of her & I wanted to, as she had a rough adult life...After her 2 brain aneurysms then stroke 14 yrs ago she's never been the same. My dad was taking care of her, but as far as I was concerned not getting the best care. I tried to help long distance, but he said it was none of my business. So, after he passed 3 yrs ago I thought I cld make a difference in my moms life, but it was too late. She was used to being a recluse, I tried so hard to get her involved in social activities, but not very successful. Over the years it became more demanding & more depressing & overwhelming for me. I quit my job to stay home to take care of her, mom helped financially so I wouldn't have to work so that wasn't the issue. I felt I needed to something bec it was becoming more difficult so a friend told me you'll know when it's time to move her to assisted living, etc. Well, it became time and now there are different responsibilities.
I'm sorry I'm really getting long winded, I was trying to keep it short, but....Anyway, guess my question to all of you was has anyone experienced moving a parent into assisted living & having guilt & at the same time enjoyed having your home back. But then worrying if the parent is doing okay at the alf???? I'm my own worst enemy! I just want her to feel loved & be as happy is she can be under the circumstances. Any comments...sorry my story is sooo long. Thanks for listening/reading.