We finally have a room in a wonderful assisted living facility for Mom. It is so nice, and it appears she will get loving attention and assistance. At 100, with increasing dementia, she has needed this for the past two years but refused to go. Now she is skipping meals and living on soup broth, Ensure and yogurt and getting weaker. She is very very difficult, refuses to accept she needs help, but we are both seniors ourselves and completely worn out after 8 years of making trips to IL and doing it all for her. IL wants her moved as they don't provide the attention she needs and she is getting paranoid, blaming them for stealing (which of course is in her head). We can't be there 24/7 and know she must have more oversight. She lost one of her hearing aids for the 4th time in 2 years! We are moving her this week, but she doesn't know. Its going to be a nightmare. She will stay with Sis while I move all the essentials, then we tell her. She will throw a fit, we'll probably have to force her in the car and carry her in, but we have no choice. She can't live with either of us, we have health issues. She complain and has never been happy wherever she is anyway. This is the only choice, best for her, and we will have the burden of care and worry lifted. We pray she will grow to appreciate the attention and might thrive with better care, but with her negative attitude we don't know. She dumps on us, but it appears she does not do that as much to others, so maybe it will work out. We are getting her a new doctor who we hope will take more interest in her and prescribe something to help her depression and appetite. Fortunately she does not need any other medication, good thing because she can't be trusted to take them. She would never let anyone in her apartment including an aide. We're praying this will go off smoothly.