My mother has ruined out lives. My husband and I moved my mother from the nursing home to our house out of guilt and no we are regretting it.

Shamelessness
Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways.

Magical thinking
Narcissists see themselves as perfect using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to dump shame onto others.

Arrogance
If a narcissist is feeling deflated, he can reinflate himself by diminishing, debasing or degrading somebody else.

Envy
If the narcissist's need to secure a sense of superiority meets an obstacle because of somebody else, he neutralises it using contempt to minimise the other person's ability.

Entitlement
Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of [...] automatic compliance because they consider themselves uniquely special. Any failure to comply will be considered an attack on their superiority. [...]

Exploitation
can take many forms but always involves the using of others without regards for their feelings or interests. [...]

Bad Boundaries
narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. [...]

That is my mother...full blown.....she is this and I am so ashamed that she gave birth to me because I have this big old heart that keeps trying and trying and I cannot get thru to her. She really believes she is Jesus and never ever comitted one single sin in her life.

Oh dear - that's horrible. Is there any way you can force the issue, and just refuse to keep her anymore? You don't have a legal obligation to let your mother live with you. I hope you can find a way out of your nightmare. Life is too short to sacrifice yourself for a Narcissistic parent. You deserve to live your life without being abused. Everyone does!

My advice as a daughter and a nurse would be to send her back to the nursing home. That may sound cruel to some, but you cannot physically, mentally or emotionally keep this pace up. On top of that it is only making matters worse for your feelings toward her. It is a difficult situation, but you you said you moved her back in your home out of guilt. That motive is not good for you OR her. See an attorney or some kind of health care specialist dealing with finances to get the inheritance thing settled in your favor. Keep in mind that your mother is not operating with fullness of capability of mind. You need to send her back and take a break from all of this. You can only do so much; you cannot do it all, all of the time. Stop trying to! Godspeed to you and your mother.