Dementia mother living with daughter. Makes herself nervous and starts to shake. My mother's dementia behavior is getting very tiresome. She has been living with us for a year now. I don't know how my hubby and I have survived so far - this is more than tough. Mother's conversations are 95% negative, wants to go home, doesn't want to live with us. Would rather kill herself if she can't live in her own home. She is disabled (body totally worn out). Can barely use a walker, needs help getting in out of wheel chair, bed, dressing, bathing, making meals. Sometimes she can't remember what was said 5 minutes ago. But! Thinks she could do all of this. Sometimes she doesn't even know where she is.
My husband and I are worn out. We have a caregiver for her for 5-7 hours a day so I can work (I have full time job). My husband quit working because he is taking care of her at night so I can do my day job.
We feel unappreciated for all that we have given up and have lost to take care of her. Our health is going to pot and her's has gotten better. We take very good care of her. Someone is with her 1 on 1 24/7.
I'm tired of feeling like my life is going down the drain. I know I will miss her someday, but I miss my "old mother" now. This new model is someone I don't know. We could deal with this if she could only be positive but it is always negative. I'm the chief cook and bottle washer 24/7. We don't get days off. We are passing up life and I am beginning to feel for what!
She was on head meds and got physically and mentally debilitated from them. She is much stronger without them.
She's a pretty demanding person and always speaks her mind and is not always very complimentary.
I'm frustrated, angry, tired, and becoming very unhealthy in all ways. And this is Mother's Day of all things.