My Mother moved over 3 hours away, over 20 years ago. I told her it was a bad idea, living so far away (Maine), but she did it anyway. She moved there with no friends or family. She barely gets any social security because she worked less than 10 years of her life. My Dad took care of her until they divorced. She got a large settlement and her rich friends also give her money. She constantly cries poverty. My husband and I give her money when we can but we don’t have high paying jobs and our house isn’t paid for. Fourteen or so years ago she asked if she could move in with my husband when she got to old to live alone. My mother ( she’s 82 now) has always been selfish, bossy, controlling and verbally abusive. I told her NO, none of us would be happy living in that situation. My husband and I work full time. I suffer from migraine vertigo too. My Sister let her stay with her (North Carolina) in the winter and my sister was so miserable that she gained 60 pounds and did not invite her back. My brother lived with her for 10 years and he was miserable and finally moved out. I told her to sell her house and move back to our home town where everyone lives but she wouldn’t do it, she didn’t want to leave her garden. Now she can not take care of herself. She gave her house to my niece and said she is moving back to our hometown to live with my niece and her family. But she doesn’t want to leave her house and doesn’t want to live with my niece now, even though she put my niece on her deed. She is being mean, hateful and saying things behind my back. She is telling people I won’t let her live with me. My husband and I are 60, not retired. I have told her many times, we can’t physically, emotionally or financially take care of her. I am so hurt and sad. I am sad for my mother but I can’t do this.