My MIL has had sketchy memory loss the past 5 years but the last year she has lost short term memory in drastic amounts. The last number of months has been 5 minutes loss for every month. She is down to a 3 minute short term memory now with the last decade having become choppy as well. Long term consists of 3 years old up to ten years ago that is pretty clear.
Her one brother that she hated now can be mentioned in her presence without her "going off" whatsoever though, which is tied to 2003, so the "decade" reference may be lucrative.
At any rate, she still is living with my FIL who had quad -heart surgery 18 months ago and is quite stressed dealing with this reality of "loosing" his wife of 50 years and daily being accused of lying, being wrong about everything, and not knowing anything because she is always right.
It's like all the good parts of my MIL have passed away and all the negative parts that could exist have stayed with us and she is down right defiant over even taking medicine. The doctor can't even force her to do what her husband tells her or to make her have a brain scan. She says her husband is the one with the problem not her.
At this point, we know time is very limited that she will be living in the house especially since he has to leave her so often for work, but our issues is how to get her to be checked into the AL without a downright fight. Her sister lives in a nice one where they could be in the same room, so we think that would be best. We need ideas how to go about all of this. My husband has been as helpful as can be as his dad is mentally adjusting to the idea and waiting in the "I'm ready" while his brother has not visited or been a part of any of the situation to be involved, help, or ask how his mom is or what he can do to help, so it is up to us. (They may be an issue when it's time for her to be put into AL, but that's another issue).
The only idea we have come up with is have her things at the AL ready, all paperwork and such done, have my FIL drop her for a visit and step out but leave- at that point my husband and I will be outside to take him to our home for a few days to breathe (which is an hour away) and we can go back with him in a few days after the initial blow is over.
How would that work?