she is handicap uses walker and sometimes wheelchair. I have been primary cargiver for 10 years. (she is living in our small home now (2 years) with her son and my two daughters 3 cats an me.) I am exhausted. I have lost my hubby to her. they sit and talk and I am pretty much left out of conversation. Cuz when i do say something it is either WRONG (and they "correct me" or I am looked at like an alien for interrupting their conversation. They say it is my fault if I complain! (She is alcoholic, hubby raised with alcoholism) So that is part of the problem. I am grossed out by her lack of hygiene and it causes me to be angry. Also the fact she does not do anything except sit in a chair all day and read and watch TV. I don't get any help. SHe did offer to hire someone for ONE day to give me a break and I said that would not be enough...so she didn't bother again. We did go over north overnight to see some friends, but I was totally taken aback when I found out we did not have a separate room! ARE YOU KIDDING? We (hubby n me) have not be getting along all that well and I was hoping some time ALONE would be good. HAH! I tried to corner him in the bathroom, but he was all "afraid!" his Mom would hear! WELL DUMMY why didn't you book our room separate? So "that" never happened. Hmmmm... Basically....I make food they slurp it down and rarely is there a thank you for anything....I am going crazy! I feel trapped. I don't have an outside job as no one seems to be hiring old gray hair ladys! Besides as it is the (alcoholism factor) I have to drive a 20 yr old back and forth to work daily cuz, Daddy won't be responsible, there fore he can't make his child responsible and if he isn't on the same page as me...i just end up banging my head against the wall. I just started Celebrate Recovery so I can understand the alcoholism..I have always tried to fix things...now realizing I can't but want to get off this merry go round.