Mother is 90 percent bedridden with various illnesses i.e. COPD, CHF, Diversticulitus, arthritis, lower back vertebrae cracked and repaired, hip replacement required. She is in unending pain except when she drugs herself into unconsciousness. She's not a good candidate but scheduled for surgery this month. Drugs and Alzheimer affect her ability to reason and remember.
Father has lung cancer. Two months ago, he was informed that Chemo will no longer prevent its growth. He can continue to take a type of chemo that will help him breathe easier as he died or he can have his doctor contact a Hospice and he could die soon. He chose chemo.
My wife and I have been caring for them with the help of CNA's that visit the home. We can't do it all. After much argument, parents hired a housekeeper via their church who stole 3k from them. They refuse to file charges. Others continue to cheat them. They refuse to sign a POA to allow me to handle med issues and business for them. What to do?