I have found the system in our country completely inadequate. You either have to be independent for Assisted living or nearly incapacitated for nursing homes. My dad is in-between.
I took him to respite care on Friday, yesterday. He called crying (we knew he would) for us to pick him up today. We are.
And I can't blame him. Assisted living homes don't offer respite and the nursing homes are depressing.
Dad has mid level alzheimers. He is functional. Still weaves art pieces. Still bathes himself. Can't take care of bills nor understand concepts. But is not in need of nursing care.
And the cost of these places are ridiculous. I will use in-home help from now on when we need a break.