Have taken my husband in three times in the last three months because of suspected UTI-always on weekends, so I have to go to Urgent care and wait 3-8 hours to get seen, then he can't provide a urine sanmple, so back home until he does, then back to find out nothing is wrong except this insidious disease. They won't give me a sterile cup to take home in order to avoid double trips. The overall cost here? Nearly $500 which we do not have. Plus chest X-ray because he sounded a little wheezy. He has smoked for 68 years and I am told that at age 83 it is not a battle I need to fight, so I monitor his outside smoking as I find burn holes in our patio cushions. He also waits until I try to lie down during the day, then lights up in the living room-you guessed it-burn hole in the sofa. The drifting smoke waking me out of a restless light nap. The aggression is nonstop as I fail dismally to be able to redirect him, ignore his delusions and in the midst of it, try to protect our dog who has a heart murmur and cat with a urinary problem. Both are on special prescription pet foods, but every single meal my husband feeds them foods that can be harmful. I have tried so hard to gently explain why they must eat only what is in their own dishes, but he just cannot understand. These two animals are just about my only joy and I know he loves them too, but if this results in additional vet bills I don't know what we will do. Dog has petcare, but cat does not and dog's plan would not at all cover any of this. Golly I know this is wandering from subject to subject and I am so sorry but I am losing it. I do have a senior peer counselor coming in this week. I hope that this can help, but you know what, other than a time for venting frustration and sorrow, that does not seem possible. If anyone can really give me guidance on anything I have mentioned, I would be so grateful!