Mom snapped yesterday, became incoherent and nonrespondent. Had to call 911 who transported her to the hospital....

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It was more less finally determined that mom has Dem/Alz yesterday. She kept rattling off numbers and not putting sendtences together. She would not answer the questions anked by sis or my nephew. Although sister has not accepted the fact that mom has had Dem. I accepted it a long time ago thanks to all of you.

A while back when I found this site I did a lot of sounding off about sis, but now it has all boiled down to sis and I, in other words FOE, (Family Over Everything) a direct quote from my oldest son. Now is the time for us to get together and do what's best for mom. It's not a time for bickerring, not a time for disagreement, not a time for you did she did....it's a time for let's do what's best for OUR mom.

This thing we call life is so precious. I've had time to adjust, while sister hasn't. But I will find a class we can take together so she will understand the challenges ahead of us. Lord knows there will be many.

Plz pray for our family!

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Your attitude is so admirable, showing us all that we can be teachable and forgiving. Not everyone will get cooperation from a sibling - no matter what they do - but holding out the olive branch is helpful in many cases. We are with you in spirit!
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Howdy folks, just thought I'd pop in and say hello to everyone.

Mom is actually doing quite well. She is in and out, but still fusses at me so I know she's still got some wits about her. She doesn't eat as much as we'd like her too but I guess that's her choice.

I'm reading a wonderful book called Staying Connected while Letting Go, The Paradox of Alzheimer's Caregiving. Wonderful book. I've actually gotten 3 books and when I'm done with this one, I'll get right to the next one which is called Decoding Darkness, the search for the genetic causes of Alzheimers.

Haven't looked at the other threads yet to see what's happening in everyone's lives, and their loved ones so I'll do that now.

Sis did remove the 1/2 bars on moms bed and replaced them with full bars so that mom won't get out of bed. She did that once, got out of bed and fell right on down. I'm not so sure that I like seeing her in that bed with those bars so far up yet though, guess it just takes some time getting used too.

Mom's best friend, who's husband died a couple of months ago, sold her house and is moving out of state to be with her daughter. She'l be living in Assisted Living. She came by to see my mom before she left and my mom knew exactly who she was. That was promising and made sis and I feel real good. She even knew her daughter, just had trouble remembering her name. I don't think she comprehends that her friend is leaving the state though, so I'm sure she'll be asking about her over and over again but se'la'vei' or however it goes.

My youngest son left for the Marines last Monday so now I am the PROUD PARENT OF A MARINE and that's one of the reasons I haven't been on the site much spent a lot of time with him before he left. He left early, wasn't supposed to go until September but he was ready to go. Keep him in your prayers.

Until we speak again, love, hugs, and admiration to you all.....Pamela
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Pamela, I can so relate to you. I couldn't possibly have taken care of my dad full time, or even half time. He was dangerous, both to himself, and to others. He was wandering his neighborhood, and getting into serious trouble. He was taken to ER, then transferred to a Geriatric Psychiatric Ward, then medicated for anger. From there, he was transferred to a Nursing Home. He is less active, and more compliant now. I am glad I don't live there. He's easier to deal with in shifts. Hard stuff, this Alzheimer's Disease! And they can't help themselves. We can't stop the decline, but must have help dealing with it. Nothing sadder than watching a parent consumed by it, and feel powerless. Ugh! I'm glad you have some distance and perspective. Don't feel guilty about that.
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Sis called me yesterday and said mom had been hollering all day long, then she was hollering to take her in the living room in the wheelchair, sis did, and mom stayed there all of 5 minutes then wanted to get back into her bed. Then she got out of her bed, (by herself) and fell down PLOP!!!!

I've not been there in 3 days and sis is really stressing out. I guess she's realizing this disease is pretty bad.

My phone keeps ringing, and when I pick it up no one's there. The caller ID says private caller, and private caller is usually mom. But I needed a break. I imagine sis will too pretty soon.

Thursday when I went over before I left the help said "GOOD LUCK", I didn't have any problem though. Mom wanted to go back to her bed, so I took her back. I brought her a sprite, which she loves, she drank it. I gave her dinner, which she didn't eat too much of, and then she dozed off. I was only there 5 hours.

Maybe this isn't so nice to say but I'm sure glad I don't live there! there I've said it.
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Thank you, Pamela. :)
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Pamela, I'm praying for you.
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miz you're a sweetheart.
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My heart goes out to all of us. No one that has not been in our shoes can understand how painful, frustrating, and heartbreaking alz/dem is. It seems to have much more of a grip on my mom now and my heart aches. Mom's doc says there will be a cure but not in our lifetimes. There is a lot of good advice on this thread. Anything we can do to make it easier, less stressful and upsetting is a God send. Hang in there, everyone.

love,
miz
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They check for anything reversible at all, and oftentimes infections make things worse as well as causing discomfort. I would go ahead and have that tended to. I've also been struggling with medications that make my mom feel worse, sometimes given for good reasons, but not for anything more imrpotant than how she is feeling and functioning.
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naheaton you never cease to amaze me, you're still a hoot.

Yesterday our priest went to see my mom. I called him prior so he would not be shocked when he arrived, but he called me after he left saying my mom wasn't able to pray with him. She did not know him, or any of the prayers. She wouldn't take communion either. Dahhhhhhhhhh did I not call him to warn him. Then he asked me if Dementia is anything like Alzheimers..........dahhhhhhhhhh yeah. Needless to say I was dummified by the stupified, if you know what I mean. I told him his visit was to annoint mom with oil and to bless her, as he did.

I just came back from moms taking her a breakfast sandwich. She looked up at the hanging rosary over her bed, and asked me to give it to her. I did. She took it made the sign of the cross with it, and said "Our Father". She did not say the entire prayer but I watched her say that over and over. Now I have watched my mom for years say the rosary @ 9:00 am for years and years. The caretaker says she gives it to her daily but I think she's lying.

Now although she did not know who Father was yesterday she still knew what he represented, and that is a good thing, a great thing. Yep it's in and out but I'll take it. I had to call my sis and tell her.

I think I will have a wonderful day today and I hope all you wonderful caregivers do too.

Pam
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