I don't get it - my mother extremely values any kindness or consideration from just about anyone but me. I'm practically her house slave right now helping her keep things going, doing all shopping, giving up any free time I might have when I'm not working for her needs and whims. I'm giving up sleep to even be here on the net right now writing this - she finally stops expecting me to interact with her all the time at bedtime. I know I should be grateful for this as some of you don't even get that break. But in any case she's treating this housecleaner like a substitute daughter, caring about every word she says, overpaying her at times. I have no authority or position to fire the housecleaner and even if I did my mother is so attached to her it would cause some serious misery. We went through a few she couldn't abide before this one. If she weren't so attached to her, I'm sure she'd have fired her and have me doing that work too. I'm so sick of feeling invisible and used, feeling valueless because she doesn't have to pay me and expects it all as her right.