My mother never calls anyone in the family, then gets pissed when we tell her of an event taking place within a few days and says no one keeps her informed. There's no reason why she can't call us! She has no contact with me, my brother, her grandkids or her great-grands! The last time I spoke with her was 2 months ago, when out of nowhere came, "You treat me like I'm already dead". She's never been a warm fuzzy mother, and when I tried spending time together with her she always had some medical reason why she couldn't. However, she managed to accept outings from my brother and day trips with my father before his passing.
I asked her to choose a broadway show for her Mother's Day gift years ago, she told me she didn't want to go, and had all kinds of excuses why. After many other attempts to spend time with her, I finally told her I was done.
Two months ago was the last time I spoke with my Mother by phone, which ended up with her hanging up on me. I am so done with all this! I have been the peace keeper in this family for years and now the peace keeper is the one she isn't speaking to. For years she (and my dad) didn't speak to my brother. During that time my brothers son died. I told my parents about the death and they seemed to show no interest in attending their grandson's funeral. I told the in no uncertain terms that if they don't go and make amends with my brother that they could forget about me being their daughter. They went.
There's a pattern here, my mother didn't talk to her sister for 39 years and she passed without making amends her. There were other Aunts & Uncles they didn't talk to also but I don't want to get into it.
Long story short, she's going to end up dying alone, bitter, & angery.
Well, now I vented alittle and re-read what I wrote and it doesn't make much sense, but thanks for letting me ramble on!