I am 53, almost 54 and my mom continues to make negative comments when I do things in life:
1. When purchasing our house, "wow, that is too expensive, can't you look for a foreclosure..." We bought in Morgan Hill, 2012 Asking $480k we offered $425, sold for $450.. It is now valued at $850k..
2. why would we make windows in the living room longer so that we can see the driveway.. After "i like those windows longer..."
3. talks behind our back about purchases we make, with our money...
4. getting a dog, "I don't like big dogs, I hope you don't regret it in 3 months.. " Our dog is Lab and Pit mix, we love her and will not regret it!
These are just a couple examples. When I talk to her on the phone she talks about shows she watches and wants me to watch them too. At Christmas she stayed at our house with my sister and niece (they live in Brazil). My mom treated my boyfriend poorly, in his house. I said something to her and she has not been back since. I go to visit her in Fresno 3 hours away. But right now I am very annoyed with her and she is not very friendly on the phone. She does not ask about our new puppy, I had eyelid surgery, she didn't call or ask how I was doing; only remarked about a bruise on her but from falling in her garage. We went to Tahoe for a basketball trip, she didn't ask about our trip.
I am so tired of her negativity and judgmental attitude. If I tell her that, what would happen?? She would say "oh, that is how you feel.." Yep, it is!
My mom has no friends, doesn't interact with people where she lives. I told her to go to group classes at the gym. She doesn't like the group classes. She is only happy when I visit, by myself.. When we are together, we have fun and I enjoy her company. But, when I don't she is miserable. I just don't know how to make things better!