A good thing has happened since Mom has been moved to AL. For weeks my sister and I heard complaints, moaning, obsessions, even major nastiness. We haven't been able to go there in 2 weeks (me - broken ankle, sis -sick spouse). I have tried for 10 days to call Mom, no answer, she doesn't call me. I call AL and ask them to check her phone (she sometimes unplugs things)
The AL tells me they didn't understand why the doctor increased her Zoloft because she is fine with them. Then they tell me she is downstairs with her "best friend" a lot and socializing and eating all meals! (My mother? Really? Is that the person who moans and groans all day? Wow)
Either the Zoloft kicked in and her depression has let up, or she is saving the garbage for me and sis. She' did call sis a couple of times, but has forgotten all about me (the one who does her finances, shopping, laundry and errands, doctor visits! Hurts a little, but as long as she has adjusted and is happy, I'll take it!
Those of you agonizing about whether to put someone in AL, believe me, my mother was the worst, and she has adjusted - so there is hope!