What a mess of a situation we've landed ourselves in. My 91 year old mom with mid-stage FTD (fronto-temporal dementia) fell at the nursing home. Now she's hospitalized with a broken femur. I'm not allowed to visit her because I've been home sick with flu. It knocked me on my butt five days ago. My fever finally broke last night, but the doctors want me fever free with no medications for 24 hours minimum before they'll allow me near her. I completely understand. In the meantime, as her active health care proxy we're trying to do all our discussions and decision making with the medical staff via phone. My husband visits mom to check things out as well. But it's so stressful and it's physically draining me quick as I try to recover. Extended relatives are taking the 2 hour drive out to be with my mom so it's not all on my poor husband's shoulders. Again, it's just such a mess. And my heart feels like this is the start of that decline I've heard about. Just a sad situation all around.