My Mom is 89 and in pretty good health. She lives about 5 minutes from me. I drive her everywhere she needs to go and help out with chores. Aside from becoming overwhelmed with another person's house and life, I notice that Mom leans on me not only for the above-mentioned duties but for her social life as well. As a result, my own social life has suffered. She constantly bemoans her life and her loneliness without my Dad. I almost feel like I'm called upon to be a surrogate spouse, which feels very weird and tiring. And, of course, there is the constant guilt--tripping. I'm so "lucky to have a car and have no job to go to." Therefore, naturally, I am free -- and obligated -- to be at Mom's beck and call. Limits are hard to set when the demands are ever-present and never-ending. I feel like I'm trying to rescue someone at sea and my arms are getting tired! Any and all suggestions would be much appreciated!