My siblings and I decided to ask Moms doctor to help us bring Mom in to have her driving abilities tested. It needed to be done, there were dings appearing on her car and her driving was getting bad. We wanted her off the road before something awful happened. She did not pass and they took her licence. I thought I would feel relief and in one way I did but I also felt terribly sad. It hit me that Moms life as she knew it is over. She took it pretty well but I could hear the sadness and defeat in her voice. That just broke my heart.
Mom is not an easy person and she can be downright mean. I have had to learn to keep a healthy space between us or I end up being engulfed in her anger and misery but that does not mean I don't love her or feel for her. Boy this stuff is hard.