My dad was placed in memory care/assisted living a year ago, about 10 minutes from home. Mom now lives alone in their home, down the street from me. She says he is no longer the person she knew and resists visiting. Sometimes she loads him in the car and brings him home to sit in the living room all afternoon. He gets confused and then wonders why he can't come back home...who could blame him? Now she is resisting visiting altogether and I am increasingly having to go to his facility during my work days and make excuses that she is busy, yada yada. It's horribly sad and, I think, cruel on her part.