Although my mom is the primary caregiver for dad, who has multiple health issues other than parkinson's, I am the next in line. My brother has pretty much washed his hands of the whole situation, and my parents rely on me for a lot. While I still have two children in college, my daughters as well as my husband rely on me for support. My husband is extremely supportive, but I feel so alone, and feel like I have no one to talk to, and no one understands what I'm going through. I have avoided contacting the health services through my employment, because I feel as if they'll only tell me that I'm doing the right thing, not to feel guilty, etc, etc. I need people who understand where I'm coming from and understand the situation. I'm afraid the stress is starting to affect my health as well, as my arm and back are starting to ache. I don't know if that's due to stress or depression, and I don't have the time to see the doctor between seeing my folks after work, and work it's self. I feel as if I need help all the way around!

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It is great that you have a nice hub and kiddos. However, they are all adults and have to remember that you have a lot on your plate right now. The daughters should learn how to give support as well as receive it. They should also get involved in the care of their least give you a break when they are home from college. I sometimes think that caregivers are guilty of "sheltering" children from the realities of aging and the care that is required. It is something that we all face one day.
Since your health is being compromised, hire paid caregivers to come in once and awhile to help with your parents. Are you caring for them in your home or theirs?
However you need to do it, get a break from it all...even if it is for a few hours. I hired two caregivers to do a few things for Mom and I cannot believe how it helps.
Your body is sending you strong messages - do not ignore them. What would your parents do if you become incapacitated? You cannot get your good health back.
Take care...Lilli

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