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To all of the caregivers , you are not alone , especially today . If you recently lost a family member, like me, and are caregiving it’s especially hard. You’re not alone , we may not be together but are here for each other through the struggle and the unknown of future days.A day at a time, peace to all of you 💜

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Since December of 2023 my mother had 2 falls in her cluttered and dirty home. She last suffered an AERORTIC aneurysm rupture. 3 hospital and 3 SNFs stays later. Some in home care was given. I began to notice the Dementia signs when she returned after her hip break. The last snf was due to discharge her which I was strictly against when " UNSAFE DISCHARGE " was mentioned to me. She had not been diagnosed but anyone involved agreed even her doctor tho he declined diagnosis( I am DPOA). The snf then handed me a list of 3 Afh's in our area. I visited 2. So so. The battle continued as to her wanting to go home, snf wanting to discharge AND demanding some pymt! ( she was on medicaid) I continued to uphold her mess of a home, bills, etc. Well LONG story short, I had suffered a minor heart event in the summer of 2024. As I later lay in bed one night wondering HOW was i gonna resolve all this and get her into a reasonable LTC situation, I decided the next day to visit the THIRD AFH, ( a very good visit and feeling had by all) I went into see her, told her due to my own ( heart) health I was gonna get her outve this SNF and in w a couple ( friends) to take care of her till she gets on her feet etc. She agreed, the caregiver visited, they liked each other, and she moved in February of 2025. I have since gone thru the small hovel mess of a trailer and sold it. My mother was a Marine. Thinking She could get a military burial. Sadly, I learned she wasnt eligible. The money I put in savings from her trailer I used partially for a Cremation plan. (Sorry this is so lengthy) the SNF continued to Harrass me till I enforced ( with backup) her QMB status and in August the SNF agreed they were owed nothing and I never heard from them again. She was diagnosed many yrs ago as bipolar and schizophrenic. Some meds Still used but thru the 2 yrs prior had been dropped, not given, not listed, whatever, adding to her issues.. My mother continues to decline with her memory, is pretty sedentary aside from helpful movement from the caregivers..She has been diagnosed by a geriatrician and on appropriate meds. I realize I have had it FAR easier in my mothers journey then many but I want to say this website Has been a big help thru out. There is hope and her Caregivers are a huge Blessing. I visit her twice a week. Shes clean, well taken care of and Safe. Best wishes for a Peaceful New year to All..
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Hothouseflower ,

That’s wonderful !!
Have you thought about this may be a sign to focus on you and your husband more ?
Your Dad is being taken care of in the nursing home . Visits with Dad are not mandatory especially now .
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I had a Christmas miracle, and I am not religious. My husband had a stroke early Friday morning. The first one was a mini stroke that went away and he did not want to go to the hospital, which is typical for him. I called EMS and they agreed with me that he should go to the hospital. So off he went. The minute he got in to the ER, the big one hit. He could not move the right side of his body and he could not speak. We were in the window for the clot buster shot and my daughter, son-in-law and I managed to convince him that he should have it. He didn't want it because the doctor had to do due diligence and tell him that 10% of the people who take it die. Fortunately for him he was in the 10% of people for whom the stroke effects go away completely.

He was admitted to the ICU in pretty bad shape and then after a few hours he could move his right side and speak more coherently. By the end of the day on Friday he was walking and talking. It took some time but his double vision went away too.

He was discharged yesterday from the ICU without needing rehab. He has a walker just in case he wants to use it. Getting to the ER early is what saved him.

If you or a LO show stroke symptoms get to the hospital immediately, even if the symptoms go away.

He regained everything back and I am so happy.

Merry Christmas to all.
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Well said. Merry Christmas to all caregivers.
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Thank you @SouthernFlower. Same to you! Peace to all is a lovely message.🧸💜
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