What I thought will never happen any time soon did! After about 6 months and one denial of application, my mother's Medicaid was approved. Then one week after approval, a spot opened at a near Long Term Care Facility. One week later, she was moving in to her new living arrangement.
And just like that, I felt the weight lifted of all the resentment, the arguments, the stress, and I was able to see my mother again for just that...my mother.
I will always be her advocate where she is now, we check up on her more than once a week. She is certainly adjusting, but doing far better than we thought. Now she gets Physical Therapies, which we hope it will help with her condition. Even though her condition will not improve, at least it keeps her moving until she can't anymore. She has Spinocerebellar Ataxia (SCA), type unknown, but not hereditary.
For those of your out there who may be feeling lost, don't stop until you've done all you can. Yes, Medicaid (for those who can qualify) takes time, that's why you need to plan as ahead as you can. Keep all finances clear. If you have siblings, cut the financial cord if any of them have one.
She is safe where she is at, she is cared for...we are still doing some tweaks and learning of how things work at the facility...but she is eating and is comfortable.
Now we can go back to being mother and daughter.